I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year. (1 year and 3 months) We are both faithful and we both love each other a lot. The other day he showed me some messages between him and his friend and I just so happened to scroll up and saw where his friend had a girl coming over to have sex and my boyfriend asked for pictures of the girls boobs. I asked him why he said that and he just said He didn't know because it was a long time ago (we had been dating for 9 months when this happened). He kind of turned it on me because 3 months into our relationship he saw a text on my phone to a guy friend telling him I loved him (completely as a friend) b/c he was going through a hard time. Its been a few days and I just dont feel like I can forgive him even though it wasn't that major. I dont know what to do in this situation because I love him more than anything and I want to be with him but stuff like this has happened before and he doesn't think its wrong. What should I do?
Most Helpful Guy
IF you think you are not overreacting then neither was he wrong for pointing out the thing you did with the friend.
This is a case where you both have done minor things that barely if at all constitute cheating and now are facing problems mostly because of insecurity.0
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Most Helpful Girl
While I don't exactly see it as cheating I would be hurt if my husband did that as well. Porn is one thing, someone he may see in our social circle is another.
I think this is a good opportunity for both of you to set your limits, if he felt uncomfortable by you speaking with your friend that way he has a right to have his feelings taken into account for your future behaviour. Just as yours matter about him asking for nudes of his mates bed buddies. Both of you can compromise and adjust to make each other feel comfortable0