I honestly cringe at the thought of doing anything even remotely romantic. I never cuddle after sex. I would never hold hands. I'd never go buy a girl flowers. I'd never send those sappy good morning text saying how beautiful she is. None of that.
I've always had women think I have absolutely no compassion towards them, even when I actually did. I've worked on being more attentive and paying attention to other people's lives other than my own throughout the years. My girlfriend today completely understands how I show my affection towards her, but it's never through romantic gestures.
I'm not trying to say I'm better than you, or my way is the right way by any means. I'm genuinely curious as to what goes through your mind when you do this kind of shit. Is it natural.. Do you force yourself to do it till these things become habitual? I'd personally rather cut off my dick then to send those sappy ass text messages or hold hands.
Most Helpful Girl
Lucky lady. So how do you show your affection?
I'm not into the sweetiepoopookins action but I think ideally a couple should be best friends who want to bang and do nice things for each other. I can't stand when the whole relationship is sweet talk because it has no substance, but once in a while is nice.
I naturally want to do nice things for people I like but they're usually cool rather than cheesy.1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Guy
Some guys just fall crazy in love and that's just what they want to do. They know that's what she's gonna like so it makes them feel good. There's also an element of "No one else can do this with this girl. I'm the only one" So I think for guys, the whole being sappy thing makes them feel like they are valued by the girl because of how much she might appreciate the flowers, or how excited she is to hold hands with you. Like you got to admit, when you got a girl who's so into you that the act of holding hands, holds romantic value, is pretty sweet. Even if you don't like holding hands. The fact that she would want to do it just to feel closer to you. But I think that's what those gestures do. It's a great question. You could probably spend a whole night debating over this.3THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
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