This is kind of long, sorry.
I've met plenty of guys who I've been interested in getting to know. When I find out they're seeing multiple people at once I drop them. I only date one person at a time. Entertaining 2+ people at a time is uncomfortable for me. Plus I don't see how it's possible to actually get to know someone when you're not actually focused on them.
Not surprisingly I've been in one relationship back in highschool. Since then I can't seem to find someone. I know it's me. Maybe I'm asking for too much and it's about time I conform.
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The older you get, the more people shift from a dating model where they get to know people in joint social situations, and then eventually start dating. It can still happen, but less often. So the start going on dates with people they don't know all that well to see if they like each other, get to know each other more, see how their chemistry is, etc. Now if they're not very desirable, those dates are few and far between. But if they are, they WILL have multiple options they're exploring.
I'd strongly encourage you to draw a distinction between 'going on dates with a few people while looking for a relationship' and 'wants to date multiple people on an ongoing basis'.
You say 'when you find out they're seeing multiple people'. What stage is that? How many dates?
I'd kind of say hey, by date 3, i'm looking to either be monogamous or move along. You can say that up front. If they're not close to that kind of pace, they'll move on right away. But it tells guys who -want- a girlfriend you're looking for a boyfriend.
Expect to be fucking once monogamous, otherwise you're gonna have to stick to guys who can't get dates and are below your league.0