On GAG, people always talk about how nice guys are not fakers - that they are genuinely nice, etc. - but nobody is ever bringing up the fact that not all nice guys are boring/unattractive.
For example, if a guy asks a question on here like, "I am a nice guy, why can't I get a girlfriend", everyone says "because you just rely on your niceness to get a girlfriend and everything about you is uninteresting and unappealing". How do they know all of this to be true and why do they automatically assume such?
Another example: on a question, "Why do modern men hate women so much? What are we doing wrong then?", a girl posted, "They expect hot girls with their ugly ass faces and if rejected it's because they are "too nice" "
How does she know these guys have ugly ass faces?
Note: by attractive, I mean the physical OR psychological features a woman might find attractive. So a guy that does not meet social conventions determining attractive, might still meet the individual woman's criteria but people would still say something like, "well, that nice guy got rejected because he was unattractive to her", which is not always true.
why assume that being nice makes you a pushover? in my opinion, a truly nice guy takes steps to change the world in the way he sees it should be, otherwise his motivation to be nice is not that powerful.
Most Helpful Girl
I don't really get what people mean when call a guy nice. Why is he nice for you? Because he is boring? It seems like it's not about being nice, but they just got a random adjective to describe a guy who is not appealing to you. Don't know if it'll make sense for you0
Most Helpful Guy
If being nice is your primary positive attribute then it is quite likely that you aren't all that interesting to other people. It is not by any means a bad trait to possess but it isn't something that makes people want to shag you.
So basically, if there is such an assumption frequently recurring than I would assume it is due to the fact that more interesting people will not usually identify primarily with being nice.0