I have been dating my girlfriend for 2 years now and everything has been perfect. Since December she "picked up" on smoking and i dislike smoking. I told her many times to stop, but she keeps doing. It's cold right now where we're from and i told her i dont want her smoking in my car. She gets mad cause i make her smoke outside in the cold and says im rude to her.
This seems to be hurting our relationship. Im not commanding and literally let her do her own thing. But i just cannot stand smoking and it kills the mood. I through out one of her cigarette from her mouth and well it turns out that did not go as planned. What is a nice way of telling her to stop?
Most Helpful Girl
You need to tell her this is a deal breaker. It's ok to have boundaries and deal breakers and sometimes other people are going to think they are stupid or ridiculous. You still have every right to have them and to leave someone because of it. If smoking is so important to her then she can continue to smoke with another partner that doesn't mind. You have to let her know that you won't be sticking around if she continues though. If this is really that important then you have to communicate that to her. I have the feeling it's not going to go over well though if she's already called you rude after you made the reasonable request that she not smoke in your car...0
Most Helpful Guy
It is your fault that you let her start smoking in the first place. Your relationship is not worth it if she does not quit smoking. she will die a lot earlier and before that she will have health problems. You either make her quit or you breakup with her.0