Why don't guys like romance books or movies or anything?

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And if they don't what's the reason. And why won't they watch one with a girl they like?
Also I'm talking about teen boys like 13-15

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  • If you're talking about younger boys or teens then it may be because they grow up with a culture that defines masculinity in a stricter way. Most men (not all) have a harder time expressing feelings. When you ask "how does it make you feel" it is possible for most men not to know at first. I see myself as very emotional, but I do realize it is hard to express my feelings. Other men are better at it than others. Nowadays people are progressing and this definition of masculinity isn't as strong, but it is still there. Because of the culture younger boys are not as interested in love or romance as much as girls. The girls culture is to aspire to love. And only care about love and marriage; this is still shown by the women being the more dominant audience to romance themes. But of course everyone is different and times are changing. This also doesn't mean if someone dislikes romance then they'll never like it or they won't ever find something they like.

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  • For the same reason girls don't like horror, gore, flailing, amputations, etc at 13-15.

    Boys are boys. Girls are girls.

    If you really wanna get theoretical plenty will tell you its primal. The man hunts, the woman cooks.

    Frankly I thing it's just age. Few men enjoy romance films but with age comes great patience for sex. Whether that's sitting through titanic and getting to spoon at the car scene or whether it's a horror film and being the protector and hugging their girl for safety.

    You are young. So are the boys. Just accept people are different.

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    • I disagree with you about only one aspect of what you wrote.
      Women, specifically teenage and early 20s women, are the largest audience for horror movies.
      Horror movies are tailored specifically for that audience.
      That is why the movies usually begin with a couple of hot cheerleaders being sliced and diced.
      The female audience, who are about that age, identify/empathise with the girls who are being killed in horrible ways on the screen, which gives the young female audience their first adrenalin fix during the movie.

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  • At that age, they're a lot more self conscious about what others will think of them and how it will impact their "man hood." They're still closed off from the rest of the world and believe anything will impact them in terms of being made fun of or losing respect from other guys their age. They've got the whole macho syndrome going on.

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  • I don't get the appeal, usually the story is the same but the actual story also takes a backseat to the male actor being handsome. I've actually had girlfriends try to sell me romance movies on the basis of how good looking the male actor is without even knowing the story.

    The movies are bit unrealistic and sensationalist. I really want to understand what it is about it that girls like

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  • You are 14. That's like a baby asking why does everybody wear diapers.
    You just have to gain more experience in life and expand. This isn't saying you are small or have no experience, it's just saying certain things take time to realize and everything isn't what the seem.

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  • Because romance books and movies have one common problem.
    It is very difficult to make a realistic romantic movie and keep it interesting, simply because romantic stories are boring. Yes, they are boring, except for those who live this romance. So what the writers and producers give us is always an unrealistic story, full of exaggerations where the whole universe plots to force our two love birds to break up.
    Take for example The Notebook, a girls favourite. It's a movie that gives us literally one cliche after the other.
    You have Noah and Allie.
    First obstacle in their relationship: Noah is poor, Allie is rich with many riches.
    Second obstacle: Allies parents don't like proletarians, so they want them to break up.
    Third obstacle: Allie must leave the city for her studies.
    Fourth obstacle: Noah goes to war.
    Fifth obstacle: Allie works as a Red Cross nurse and meets someone else.
    And with allthe above we have a Noah that black mails Allie to go out with him by... committing suicide in the fun park? A poor Noah who works as a builder but writes oetry and this with the best handwriting in the world. "Let's dance on the street" bullshit. A sex scene where Allie begins to murmur after the 2nd thrust and turns Noah off (in a romantic movie!). "Say Im a bird!" - "You're a bird"( apparently in this movie you always have to order your partner to do things ´to show your love), Allie marries someone else and then cheats on a really nice guy (what a good example for young girls) and then Noah as a true psycho builds a house exactly like Allie imagined it even though he hasn't seen her in months, maybe years I dont know. The guy belongs to a sanitarium!

    Then you say how beautifully romantic it is and have the nerve to say how women are more mature than men. Give me a break.
    To answer your update question, I will watch a romantic movie with my girl only when it is one worth the time and it's not really difficult to distinguish a girl's romantic movie from one that aims at all audiences. The only thing to missing in a girl's movie is the chocolate and tampn inside the case of the dvd to assure you what you're about to watch.

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  • I was 15 when I read Pride and Prejudice and I loved it. I've always liked romantic books and movies.

    They won't because they are still worried about what the other boys would say if they found out.

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  • Because they're boring. A romance movie to a guy is porn. I'm half joking. Guy sees girl. They're both horny. Guy does her up the ass on some random couch. To a guy or at least me anyway that just says romance.

    Boys 13-15 care about girls, cars, sports, and maybe working their 1st job.

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  • Because most romantic movies/books are written by women for women where the main character is a female.
    Which usually means the male characters are poorly written arbitrary extensions of the female character's happiness and not actual human beings whose feelings are cared about by anyone.

    I won't mind watching a romantic movie that is NOT female-centric though, such as Notting Hill.
    But I don't care to watch some woman's fantasy because that isn't my interpretation of romance.

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  • My favorite movie is the original black and white Casablanca lol, argument invalid.

    https://youtu.be/rEWaqUVac3M

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    • Exactly! Guys like romance that involves sacrifice, even if it means you don't get Ingrid Bergman.
      Oh, and if some Nazi officer takes a bullet to cap it all off, that's all the better.

    • @I-am-a-nobody Mhmm exactly.

      Plus the classic romances let us be in love and yet still be masculine and actual men instead being these weird sappy love obsessed guys modern romance have made us out to be.

      You just don't see a Bogart character sacrificing himself for the woman he loves anymore these days.

  • Guys love romance! My 15 y/o son is very romantic. It's just that a guy's view of romance is radically different from a girl''s. Men are more practical when it comes to romance and romance to a man usually involves sacrifice or a willingness to sacrifice.

    To me,...
    Romance is Rocky yelling, "Adrian!" a couple dozen times after the biggest fight of his life in "Rocky". Or Joe Starrett being willing to fight a hopeless gunfight for his wife and boy in the movie "Shane" (an even older movie).

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  • Did you go to the library to test your hypothesis? During that age I was already reading Harry Potter, Hardy Boys Series, Nancy Drew, Neil Gaiman's and some science books. I also like fantasy series and cartoons. No romance though. Some sort of bias thing I guess. It's a girl's book.

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  • Because the male brain is not wired that way.
    We find chick flicks, or books, to be boring at best. Usually, they are intellectually insulting and cringeworthy to the point that we squirm in our seats.

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  • Some do! But you're right, men don't as much as women do. I think it's for many reasons. 1. Women are taught to be more in touch with their emotions. 2. Women are naturally more of romance lovers. 3. Society teaches men to be the ones who chase women and therefore women are more often the recievers of romantic gestures so they can relate to them better.

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  • The majority of those boys aren't here on this app. So to represent them, i am here.
    The age of 13-15 is the formative years of boys.. The puberty hasn't hit us.. We have no conceptof romance or sex. All we care about is our sport or the superhero storylines.

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  • I'm not much of a compassionate person so when it comes to love stories/movies there isn't much of a connection there, they are just too boring and I don't wanna waste time pretending to feel for a character.

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  • Listen here missy, dont put us men on the same lane as you chick flick liking weirdos, we men like finer movies with more character development, actual plots and maybe a little violence to get the adrenline going, but who says we can't fit a little forced love in there?

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  • Their age. They don't know the value, what women see in these. More mature guys know that these are special things for women, and like these, because they love the women that like them.

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  • Because it's stupid and boring (at any age). Simply put romance (even the idealized fake/fictional kind found in movies and books that never exists in the real world)) doesn't interest us, it's just a hoop to jump through to get laid. We'd rather have to act like we are interested in it as little possible. I'll act like I'm interested and humor her if there's a good chance I'll get pussy or at least a good BJ in return.

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  • Okay first guys in general don't like reading books let alone romance books. Yes like some of the ladies comments all guys are different. Two factors come to play 1 it's culture, 2 we do have feelings we just have a difficult time articulating them. I have watched romantic movies whether romance or romantic comedy with my family or girls that are friends. I have read Song of Solomon and a little Shakespeare.

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  • For me I don't like them if the only point is romance, because that is so overly done. And watching other people kissing and shit isn't really what I want. Sorta makes me uncomfortable. It's fake. Fake action movies are one thing but fake love is another for me.

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  • We're too focused doing romantic stuff in real life, we need a break from it from time to time.

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  • I don't know, why are romance/erotic novels so interesting to some women?

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    • Romance/erotic novels simply don't do much for me. I'm very visually-oriented so I generally want to see a naked lady rather than reading about a woman undressing. The latter doesn't do much for me.

      Romance films I find okay sometimes. Most of the times they seem a little too much like absurd fantasy to me though. I consider films like The Wedding Planner to be more in the absurd fantasy realm than even Harry Potter.

    • An example of a romantic film I liked is Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind. That introduced a fantasy element to the plot but I thought the way the people in the film behaved was convincing enough.

  • Because romance is for women, literally. The guy showers her with the things she wants, they have drama because women love drama, men not so much (in fact one study showed women where happy when there partner was upset (during the "shit test" as they are called) because it showed that he was upset and therefore invested in her, a way of her knowing he was still invested in her and thus still had feelings for her). Romance simulates these things from the drama to the man functioning as provider etc. Its essentially porn for women its job is to appeal to women (that's why romance novels (the most read genre in the world) are written by women and read by women).

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  • I'm 15 and I personally like romance books, but am scared of being caught reading them. I think also a lot of guys don't really understand the romance behind the novels.

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  • Probably because they spew cringe worth emotions at you plus the movie is all about the chicken and her feelings usually having to choose between two guys. #PASS

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  • To be honest, a lot of romance is just poorly written. I like things that are reasonable, realistic but empowering and exciting.

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  • lol I see so many people saying society is the reason majority guys don't watch romance. If I were trapped in a deserted island without society watching me and just nature by my side, I know all of my bros who still wouldn't watch romantic movies given the chance, they'd rather play a video game or do some sports. You know why?

    Because society isn't the reason we dislike romantic movies, it is because men and women are different both physically and emotionally. It is a primal thing that deals with how our bodies are wired and is as a result of nature not society.

    For me, Romance is annoying and uninteresring to watch. They are designed for women, kinda like porn for women.

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  • Just gonna copy & paste:
    A lot of it tends to go against how we were taught relationships are supposed to work. In this sense, romance can be almost irredeemably frustrating.

    Note: This applied even when I was in that age range.

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  • I don't like an only romance movie. I like when they add a some action or drama to a romance movie for example titanic and the acting has to be really good for me to feel engaged with the characters

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  • Passengers was like a romance movie. Does that and 50 shades count? Friends with benefits was good too.

    I'm fine with the movies, as long as it's not super sappy.

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  • Low stakes and silly predictable tropes. Needs more guns, explosions, bullet-dodging, superpowers, spacecrafts, and magic.

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  • There is so much romance in... non-romance books and movies. Lol. Trust me, guys like romance as much as we do- but sometimes it's a different flavor of romance. I honestly think I have met way more romantic, poetic men than women.

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  • I'm a girl and I rarely like anything thats central focus is strictly romance. Tends to read as too unrealistic and cheesy.

    Old school Star Trek had the right idea about romance; intertwine it with a more dimensional story - keeps you guessing.

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  • Its an emotional thing, a lot of men do not like feeling emotional. Men are more into action, mystery and suspense movies versus that emotional love movies. This is why you will never meet a guy that likes Lifetime channel, thats a woman channel.

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  • because their stupid, and have no emotions. lol jk. But really, a lot of the time society doesn't allow them to be emotionally alright with romance.

    Sometimes you get lucky and you have a guy that actually likes some of these movies, but most of the time they are older.

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  • To me, it's boring. The only one I will tolerate is the notebook other than I don't watch romance movies.
    As for guys and I'm not going to speak for every guy, just going from what I have realized from my boyfriend. It doesn't do nothing for him, he's romantic but just doesn't care for romance film.

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  • I didn't like it when I was younger and I still don't like it now. it's so unrealistic, predictable and boring. But I've met guys that really enjoyed it.
    I think it's all about social pressure. I mean can be the main actor in a romance film and maybe a writer, but simply enjoy read it and watch is a girl think and... be compared to a girl is not that nice because society.

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  • because those are full of unrealistic bullshit.
    also, maybe because there's a stereotype that says that only girls can like those kind of things, and guys want to appear manly, so they pretend they dont like those? I don't know just a theory

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  • Well depending on the movies, books etc it can be waste of time.

    Unless the contents teach you something or helps you in someway.

    But I am not saying you should never read or watch movies.

    I love to read and do read daily.

    Any who, but for some or many those things are just not their type of entertainment

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  • they do... when it involves batman and superman or a threeway with catwoman, Harley and Ivy

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  • Some do but romance novels are stereotyped a lot. Romantic movies can be pretty boring or melodramatic even for some women.

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  • im a gurl but i dont like them too. if not full of unecessary drama, theyre very depressing especially those that dont have happy ending.

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  • I'm sure they might like some, but it's not a manly thing to like romance so they hide it.

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  • Some guys actually do like that stuff, not a lot but some. You'd be surprised! Not everyone is the same lol.

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  • I think a majority of guys do, but society pressures them to be manly and hate them

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  • It's probably because there generally aren't enough explosions, gun fights and sword battles.

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  • Cause for some guys they may not have a girlfriend or wife to share It with. Or maybe something in their past might have went wrong

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  • I don't even like them myself, they're stupid and unrealistic.

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  • If they don't I can't blame them because it's my least favorite type of movie to watch, but some guys might like it they can't all be the same.

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  • Different reasons I'm a woman and I think they're stupid

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  • Well... the perfect guys that actually like romance and so... are not into girls... WHY THE PERFECT GUYS? DX

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    • Are you saying guys that are into romance are gay?

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    • I wasn't being mean, i was making a point.

    • @SwolDishWasher Sorry sir... I don't call it sex much. I like making love better. It has a meaning.

  • I find them boring and cringeworthy. I do like romance as a subplot though.

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  • There's guys that do.

    Most guys don't because that's what they're taught.

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  • I dont like... i like more drama and comedy, and sci-fi

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  • Lmao... they prefer reality. 😂

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  • testosterone

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  • Hell i don't even like that shit

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  • They do.

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  • I guess that it's too complex for them

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  • just not their thing

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  • Unrealistic ideals/standards

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