I'm a South American girl studying in Europe. I've been here in Karlsruhe on a scholarship for around a year and a half, and I still have another year and a half to go. It's a small city and as expected most people here are white/German. The thing is, I'm in my early twenties, so it's natural that I'm dating/sexually active right now. But the impression I get from guys here is that I'm just an overly fetishized latina they're gonna brag about fucking when they're middle-aged and miss their youth years. For example I'm not ever introduced to parents, and even though I don't normally put much value into that, whether we like it or not that kinda shit makes us feel validated.
I don't know if I'm making sense but all this makes me feel really bad about myself... I just feel like it dehumanizes me in a way... Am I reading too much into things? Are guys generally like that, or is it really a fetishizing problem?
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I dont think its a fetish, i think youve just been unlucky, now i dont know the caliber of these guys, but if thats how their coming across the you need to change it if it bothers you like this, if you continue you'll just lose the rest of your self esteem, but honestly, i do think your rushing a bit, your somewhere new, i can't even image what thats like and how you cope but stressing on this isn't the way, if anything you need to enjoy the time your there, instead of getting wrapped up in your love affairs0