Is it because of my looks or am I just not approachable? I thought most girls get approached by guys but I never do. Even on dating sites I get a lot of messages but when it comes to guys actually meeting up with me they never follow through. I don't know what I'm doing wrong so any help would be appreciated :)
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As an old married guy, I have a bit of experience from a guy's POV.
A woman should be both attractive and approachable.
But if she wants to major on just one, she should strive to be approachable.
Most young ladies need to tone it down with makeup and dressing wise. A woman in her early twenties looks plenty good enough to attract a guy already, so excessive "war paint" is really unnecessary and looks fake. Most (decent) guys want a woman they can trust and who isn't "high maintenance" or looks trashy. There's no need to look perfect. In my mind a woman's desire to look perfect, above all else, shows a wrong set of priorities.
A nice smile always helps and a woman who is genuinely kind (to people who can't repay her) is always a approachable. "Flaws" like glasses or braces or a bigger than average nose can almost be endearing and shouldn't be viewed as a negative, but might "prove" you're not out of his league. Likewise, shyness, unless excessive, is a big plus.
I hope things work out for you.0