I know a lot of relationships are great. But i feel that charm fades away with time. My now ex Boyfriend and i loved each other crazily. We used to do late night texting, bought him gifts, gave him surprizes but gradually that excitement faded away and i felt empty. Also let me mention he was very controlling and manipulative so maybe that was the reason. How to keep a relationship alive? I need an advice before i think of dating anyone.
Most Helpful Guy
There's always a honeymoon phase. But once that ends, then it shows what relationship is truly made of: work and choice. Do you choose to continue to pursue and love them even when you don't really feel like it? Do you choose to continue to forgive? Those are all important things.
The other important question to ask yourself is if you are expecting them to fill needs that they weren't meant to or cannot fill. They won't be there for you 24/7. They're not going to say everything right. They can't always support you and be your source of joy and life. That's not fair to them and it's not fair to you either.
So yeah, the initial charm does go away, where it's easy and fun and you're on the emotional high. But it can be reignited by choice. A choice by both of you.1
Most Helpful Girl
According to what I have noticed they actually do. You can try keeping it alive for longer by constantly putting an effort to please the other person. However, if the effort doesn't come from both sides, the relationship fails.0