I am 27 and never had a girlfriend and I think it is due to me not approaching women EVER in any setting. Usually when I'm in a place with females I find attractive I kind of place myself slightly near them but not in a creepy way. Then I never make the move to talk to them. If I do talk to them it is because of a mutual friend that we have. I know I'm attractive to women through what friends tell me what they hear. But when the time comes to talk to women I just freeze up.
Most Helpful Girl
I had to persue my fiance cause he was super shy! Just take a deep breath and i promise you more than half the girls aren't gonna bite your head off:) the only thing she can say thats bad is no but ik it hurts! Like the other guy said, kind of go in knowing that there may be a chance of rejection and hopefully you won't get hurt at all but to protect yourself and feelings! If they say no dont take it personal because they may be going thorugh something themselves!1
Most Helpful Guy
Im in the same position as you. I've experienced this. If an attractive woman comes over to me and starts the conversation im completely fine, not nervous at all. But i can't seem to be the one who initiates conversations, not just with hot women but most people. I have read that the reason we tend to freeze up is because we are outcome dependent, as in we want to get something from her like her phone number, a date, a one night stand. So if we remove that and just have a conversation with them then it removed the pressure. Im yet to do this though.0