I know that some people get their strength and confidence by being validated by another person, by being liked by them, by being attracted to them, by being in a relationship with them, etc. To me, that is not ideal. I don't like the idea of needing someone to feel good and confident about yourself instead of taking the time and effort to really find that within yourself, to be your OWN rock. I think that being strong for yourself will make you a better partner and overall individual. So... given that train of thought, do you think that perhaps only those who are truly okay with who they are should enter the world of dating? And everyone else should just keep working on themselves until they're ready? I've been coming across a lot of guys who make me feel like I don't have my shit together lol. Just wondering if I should... step out for a bit.
Most Helpful Guy
It depends. Some people have no confidence and self worth so they end up being clingy self worth soul suckers with their partners. Those people should not date until they're comfortable with themselves. We can never get self worth and confidence from someone else. That has to come from within. To try is futile and it will only mentally and emotionally drain the people we are with until they leave us.
Some people crave that feeling and admire it so much in others that they don't notice themselves falling into that routine. They may like a man or woman with traits they wish they had. That pursuit will be unsuccessful before you even begin because again, that strength is within all of us the whole time. That neediness will only lead to our own undoing.2
Most Helpful Girl
This is actually a really good question, something that I sometimes think about. So to answer your question, "yes". But you can be comfortable in your skin but meet a guy and he will have you doing things that may be out of character for you. I feel that a lot of women change who they are to keep a guy around. You can be comfortable in your skin and date a guy where you do not have to change who you are. I find that when dating a lot of men want to change a females outlook on things instead of taking the females personality as is.1