We met on Tinder a month ago. I was expecting one of us to get bored and stop hanging out. We actually had more fun together than I thought. I realized I was falling for him; he's nice, thoughtful, matched my sense of humor, attractive, has goals, is doing good for us being this young and being on his own. We had great conversations and a good laugh every day. I considered stopping but I loved being around him. Then he told me he liked me and a few days after we had sex. I was sexually attracted to him in the beginning but when he told me he liked me I wanted to be with him and I assumed he wanted to be with me. Few days later he tells me he doesn't want a relationship. I was sad but I wasn't upset. We hadn't talk about what we wanted and I stupidly got swept up in him, not realizing he met he liked me enough for sex. He isn't looking for a relationship but just someone to chill with. It took me a week to decide that I didn't want to keep doing this with him knowing I had feelings that wouldn't be reciprocated.
I've been distancing myself from him. I don't invite him places or accept his invitations. I don't talk to him much. Our sex got boring. Before when I thought he liked me I was giving it my all and having a great time. Now I didn't enjoy it at all and did it just to do it. He caught on to what was going on and is upset. He said I'm making things complicated and doesn't want us to stop because we were having a great time.
I agree but I'm not going let myself fall deeper into a hole. Is he being fair?
Most Helpful Guy
Both of you were fooling yourselves. friends with benefits = trying to have my cake and eat it. No matter how much you try to control the definition of what you are, you can't.
You were probably not being honest with yourself either.0
Most Helpful Girl
Up to you, dude. You get a choice too.0