what are your thoughts with long distance relationships? is it difficult? if so, how? is it hard to be faithful? how do you keep the relationship strong?
Most Helpful Guy
I've been in one and it didn't work out because we couldn't see each other. That doesn't mean it won't work out for anyone. I think the whole point of a relationship is being with the person so if you can't do that from time to time it seems pointless0
Most Helpful Girl
I've been in 2 long distance relationships. Yes, it's hard. Very hard. But in a way I think it makes us closer and stronger in the long run. We actually miss each other and the time spent together is special and not taken for granted. I'd rather live far away from him and feel close to him, than live with him and feel distanced.
I wish I could be with him all the time but it's mostly money that gets in the way. It's just the little things you miss most. Not being able to see him when I need to. A hug when I'm down. Looking into his eyes when I say I love him. A kiss before bed. Waking up to them there in the morning. It's really hard and you just wish for the distance to go away.
I don't think it's hard to be faithful though. For me it's no different than any other relationship. You miss the physical connection but that doesn't mean you're going to go elsewhere for it. If you honestly think you're going to do something stupid, don't go. Don't be around people you're attracted to. Don't flirt. If your SO is worried about you going out, reassure him/her because it's understandable.
Keeping it strong is a tough one. Communication I guess. Talk about what you've been up to in detail. Even if it sounds boring. Do things together online. Watch a film or YouTube video at the same time together. Send each other music, videos, memes. Playing games, webcam, voice chat. Send pictures or short videos every so often. When I visit, we usually leave something of each others. I leave one of my jumpers or something and he gives me one of his tshirts he has been wearing. It has his smell on it and I sleep in it at night to feel close to him. Sexting is something that helps too.
You need to visit each other when you can to just satisfy those needs for kissing, holding hands, hugs, etc. I think it's also important to have some sort of plan. How long is this going to stay long distance? Who is going to be the one that moves? Do you both move? Do you want to live with each other and settle down soon? It can't stay long distance forever. I like to plan a few months ahead of when I'm going to visit. We've got plans to move in together when we can afford to. We haven't got an exact date but just knowing it's going to happen makes it all worth while.1