Every single guy I meet turns out bad from online dating.
I have low self esteem but I try to work with it.
1st guy dumped me. Smoked too much/ drinked.
2nd guy dumped me twice. Had issues with alcohol, semi cheated on me, talked to too many girls, smoked too much.
I took a 4 month break.
3rd guy stood me up twice. Worked at a nice company liked similar things I liked. He seemed nice but never sent me pics of himself. Always asked for mine.
4th guy dumped me because he said he doesn't like girls that like glasses. Also works at a very nice company as well. He always wanted pictures of me as well but never sent them of himself.
I'm very open minded and I'm not picky on looks.
Any guy that messages me and starts a conversation I talk to.
They end up talking to me for a bit but then they leave or they don't message back. I'm not understanding what I'm doing wrong.
I try talking to different guys... I text flirty like.
Is it because I settle to early? I try to have them take the lead as well but it just doesn't work. I didn't choose these guys based on their qualities... they show up later the more we talk. They hide them before I even say no to those kind of things.
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Most Helpful Guy
while i might be tempted to say yes, i don't know exactly how old you are, but you're either my age or slightly older, which means you're still young. use online dating as a supplement to your dating life, you might find someone on these websites whose perfect, and if they aren't doing something for you, hey, that's like, just don't go out with them, there are plenty of ways to meet new people, i've been tempted to try online dating myself, but so far every girl i've been out with i've either asked out or been asked out by. i have the same problem as you too, this low self esteem thing makes me really nervous around girls, and i've found i've struggled to initiate things when i'm with a girl (like kissing etc), but i'm getting better and you know, you will too, you've gotta believe you can do it, and just push to be the person you want to be. so in answer to your question, no you shouldn't quit it, just use it as another way to meet people, but also go out and experience the world too, do some amazing things, and live your life.0
Most Helpful Girl
You seriously need to work on your low self esteem and have some standards. Yes, everyone meets plenty of duds when dating, but there comes a point when some of the blame shifts to you. If your standards are so low that YOU get dumped by someone who cheated on you, that's your fault.
Stop treating it like you are trying to win a boyfriend and start treating it like you are interviewing someone for your boyfriend position. If someone doesn't meet your standards (drinks/smokes too much, cheats, etc) then YOU need to dump them. If you are talking to someone and aren't wowed by the conversation, you can leave and move on to someone else. Just talking doesn't mean anything, don't take it so personally.
Which leads me to: stop thinking everything that doesn't lead to happily ever after as bad or a failure. Every frog you kiss is one dog close to your prince. Learn from every encounter. Whether that's learning how to enforce your own boundaries or how to recognize behaviors of someone that's not serious, learn from everything!0
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