I recently started dating a guy, i met on tinder. We dated multiple times. In one, i paid, in the other date he paid, and the last date we split the bills. A friend told me to back up and told me that as far as she concerns, paying for a date shows signal of interest. So if a man doesn't pay, it means he is just looking for sex. Is that true? What do you think?
Most Helpful Guy
I wouldn't call that "effort," it is a pretty easy thing to do. If a guy thinks paying for a date shows effort, he is probably going to be a very selfish and lazy partner.
I could definitely imagine a considerable percentage of guys who do think it shows effort, and that their effort should be rewarded with sex, but these are the guys that you should stay away from to begin with. There is a considerable amount of guys who don't feel this way too. They should be easy to spot to be honest, but I guess it is also easy to be blinded by lust.1
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Most Helpful Girl
I've only been in 2 long term relationships and a handful of dates in my life but I've never had to pay in the beginning even though I always offer.
With my current boyfriend, he paid for everything for the first 4 months we were together. He even paid for weekend getaways even though he made half of what I did. But he didn't allow me to pay until our relationship was more settled and secured. So your friend isn't wrong.1