I constantly argue with my boyfriend for a number of reasons:
- He keeps comparing me to other girls.
- Keeps belittling me while complimenting other girls.
- Is always concerned about someone seeing us together.
- Keeps talking about his exes and the woman he used to love.
I hate arguing with him. It's not that I want to but I just can't help it. I want to stop!
Am I justified arguing with them?
What should I do to stop?
Most Helpful Guy
If he consistently compares you to other girls, belittles you, and is constantly concerned with someone seeing you two together, you should stop arguing with him and leave him. You teach people how to treat you by virtue of what you expect (respect, for instance) versus what you get (belittled).
You need to ask yourself why you are staying with someone when it is so easy for you to cite his negative attributes. Especially concerning to me, from a relationship coaching lens, is the comparison to other girls, his concerns with someone seeing you two together, and him talking about exes. That generally points to someone with cheating tendencies.1
Most Helpful Girl
This doesn't sound like a healthy relationship, he should uplift you as a person and not throw you down and make you feel small. You should have a talk with him and also sit down and think about your relationship together with him and decide if it's worth it. Make a pros and cons list. If it really is worth fighting, then the talk will help and he should listen to your concerns and change. If he doesn't change, he doesn't respect you as a girlfriend or a human being.0