How do you come to peace with the fact you will never have a girlfriend?
What Girls Said 7
Try creating new opportunities for yourself, so you have more chances of meeting girls0
Well that mentality right there's your first problem.0
It bothers me and makes me mad that I might never get a boyfriend.0
there are more important things1
What Guys Said 17
If you have a defeatist attitude, it'll be a self-fulfilling prophesy. The key is to gain self-confidence, because if you don't have confidence in yourself, a woman won't have confidence in you. You just have to be positive. I didn't have a girlfriend until I was about 25, but I was never 'desperate' for a girlfriend. I simply did things I liked, things that gave me a feeling of accomplishment. Girls just kind of came into the picture.1
I'm not in your boat because I've had girlfriends and a wife once but I am near enough.
I know I will probably never get a legitimate girlfriend. Mainly because modern day women are all completely shallow. I'm not excessively tall nor a black guy nor extremely rich so I don't have a hook.
I am 100% sure that I will kill myself I don't get something of a girlfriend so the solution is to purchase one. I'll probably pay a girl a monthly salary to be with me.0
I wouldn't know... I don't have a defeatist attitude like that.
For any guy who is struggling to get a girlfriend, the key is to better your social skills EVERYWHERE. It seems like most of these guys who are struggling to get a girlfriend, want a tried-and-true formula to follow step-by-step to get one.
Social interactions are NOT that systematic.0
Just be happy you are not in a bad relationship. One atrocious marriage was enough for me... I will take a pass on relationships, as they only lead to trouble.1
Realize love always fades away and you can't keep romance going forever. Also realize 98% of women aren't worth dating.0
Enjoy your freedom while you can. Think of the positives or benefits of being single. You are in control of your life. No one is stopping you from doing what you wanna do. Having a girlfriend or wide takes a lot of work, can be very stressful, risky, and so much more. Use this time for your own good. Then you can join clubs, go to events, ask your friends if they can set you up with someone, and other sources. But don't ve so hard on yourself because that attitude will only drag you down. Girls want to see confidence and intelligence in a man. Become that person first.
I don't have to cope because I called it quits a few years ago. I don't feel bad about it because I got other things to do. Including things I enjoy.0
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Honestly I have an harder time swallowing that I will probably never get to lift a 7 plates deadlift.
I dont know man, there is plenty of other thing in life that you can do instead.
I never met a girl in my life and 5 years older than you but I have time to do other stuff.
Also if you are not meant to do something in life it is probably that God did not plan that for you.
You really that bother by being alone?
As I said I am too but I have a lot more things that I dont have and make me sad.
Make your happyness depend on yourself and your own strength rather than another person.0
i already made peace lol. i just dont care anymore.1
Well yeah, with this attitude you never will.
You need some serious help manning up and understanding what women really are. Got to Rollo Tomassi's blog THE RATIONAL MALE and read at least the first two year's blogs. Then get back to us.
Next, find this site: www.illimitablemen.com
Read about GAME.
Hit the gym. HARD. Make lots of money. Become a huge success in whatever it is you aspire to. THEN you will have pick of the best women out there. And you'll actually have something of high value to bring to a relationship - cuz you'll then know what it takes to be a success. Women love a man on a mission, a guy that is strong and decisive, and rich. And you'll find someone to be an adjunct to your life, a partner in your life, not the center of it.0
I don't care. I don't need a girlfriend.1
what I do is save money so I can buy my own home. The only thing woman want is money so I try to save a lot of that.1
Dude, you have a really bad attitude. Don't accept it, fight with everything you have in you for what you want in this life! Refuse negativity. Rejection is an opportunity to learn. Keep working on yourself, not for women but for yourself. See a therapist. Volunteer at an animal shelter, help build houses for disaster victims. Gain perspective. Do something you always dreamed of doing, and live with abandon. Most importantly, reach out to people around you, make friends. Just be friends with women and have some support around you so you're not so sad and realize you don't need an idealized romantic fantasy to be whole. You're a human being, and you're imperfect, but if you get your attitude on the right path, someone will love you with all your flaws. You gotta believe man!! Never give in, never give up, you're gonna make it!!1
I know how you feel man. I'm 27 and never had an official girlfriend or serious relationship. I'm not a virgin and have dated plenty, but have never had a relationship. I've been able to attract a lot of women initially but not make it past the 3rd-5th date tops. Only ones who wanted to keep seeing me were ones I was isn't to and I'm not gonna settle.
It's one one of those things where you don't wanna let it get to you but also find out what you might be doing on your end that's causing this struggle.0
find better things to invest your time and resources in than some shallow lady0
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