He wouldn't tell me anything so I grabbed his wrist and was saying tell me and then he grabbed my hair and pulled it so I started punching him then he smashed me on his car and punched me in the face chocked me etc but I don't know what to do I can't call the police or anything because there's no service and I do live with him and I don't want to leave because I can't take my farm animals with me and I'm afraid he will hurt them and I'm too ashamed to tell my family what's been happening this isn't the first time
Most Helpful Guy
ANYone who hits me is allowed to do so so that what I do next is self defense, and if all I did was break your hand, you'd be lucky, and the only reason you'd get off so easy is if I think I might be charged with excessive self defense for doing more or I don't have a reliable alibi prepared for my whereabouts being elsewhere.1
Most Helpful Girl
If you are not sure where to start, or if you just want to talk to someone about whether your relationship is abusive, I think you should just STEP OUT and try to reach to your family, YES you might be ashamed and it's normal, but trust me, your family will be more than happy to give you a hand and they will be even more happy that you reached out for help.
It is very common for abusers to lead victims to believe that the abuse is the victim's fault, don't you ever excuse him or blame yourself, it's not your fault.
You should immediately form a plan to end the relationship immediately, before it's too late.
Regardless of your love for one another, how long you've been together, whether you have kids or pets, or whether you live together, a relationship that involves physical or psychological abuse needs to be over, because you deserve SO MUCH BETTER.
If you need something feel free to follow...
Wish you the best luck,1