Ok so me and my boyfriend had sex for the first time yesterday and it was really good and he was really caring about it. I think he does what he does because he cares about me but sometimes I'm not so sure... he likes to control like everything I do. He punishes me if I don't follow his rules. I'm not allowed to touch myself if it's not him because he wants to be the only person making me feel good. If I do touch myself and he finds out normally he'll try turn me on in public so that everyone knows and I can't do anything about it. So I try and wait for him but he likes to tease me when he does it. The number one rule he has is not to talk to other boys. Sometimes he would hit me if I did but I think it's out of love. I know he cares but he's really possessive and has an app on my phone to always know where I am and if I don't tell him where I am he punishes me. Is this normal?
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This is abuse. This is not love. No one should ever be hitting you. You are your own person. It is healthy to masturbate and it is healthy to talk to other people. If he tells you you aren't allowed to do something then that is controlling and not okay. Hitting is never out of love. When you love someone you do not wish physical pain on them. He does not trust you and he is dangerous. You need to tell your parents and get out of that relationship immediately.3