Isn't dating's purpose to get to know people?
Being exclusive and committed is a thing, and dating is another thing?
I have many girlfriends who date many guys at the same time and they just go out and talk basically, at the end they commit to the one they want to be in a relationship with.
Some time ago I said there is nothing wrong with dating many people at the same time and I got many downvotes. But it doesn't make sense in my opinion. It's definitely not cheating if you are not officially in a relationship.
Most Helpful Guy
From a relationship coaching perspective, there is NOTHING wrong with dating more than one person at a time so long as:
1) No one you're dating thinks that you two are exclusive
2) You can handle the idea that the people you are dating may be dating other people too4
Most Helpful Girl
I agree with you. People who think otherwise have clearly never been on any dates because they don't understand how it works. You're just getting to know each other. That's like saying you can only make one friend at a time because it's rude to make many friends at once. Dating is not supposed to be serious. You're only seeing if you like the person you're going out with, and if they like you back. And you can do that with as many people as you like (but obviously it's still easier to keep it to a minimum, because you still want to be able to be somewhat invested in these people).
No promises are made when you date. You're not exclusive until you talk about it. You can't expect the person you date to only be dating you, even if they're the only one you're dating at the moment. It's very much open-ended, and that's the whole point of dating. If you can't handle the fact that the person you're dating isn't exclusive with you (meaning: in a goddamn relationship with you) from the first date onward, then you shouldn't be dating in the first place, and you should calm down with those high expectations.2
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