Well, it's actually compicated. There's a dude in my school that 3 years now has being asking me out, buying me chocolates, sending me crazy messages on facebook about "us" and dedicating me any love song he's ever heard. It's the actual meaning of "stalk". I have actually rejected him more than 5 or 6 times and lately I started to feel a bit bad about him. I don't know what to do. Should I date him? He would actually care a lot for me. But I still don't like him. It seems really weird to me. He acts bad to all girls except for me. So, if I date him and then just break up with him for no reason will he be completely broke or mad? Any ideas on what should I do? I don't think ignoring him would be a solution.
Most Helpful Guy
If you don't want to, don't date him. Just let him know all the things he is doing is really bothering you and that you are not interested in him. If you date someone you don't like, there is no reason to date. Nothing will ever come of it. You are way too young to have this kind of problem. You need to block him from your Facebook page. Cutting off things like that will tell him you are not interested and won't change your mind. Also, block his number on your phone so he can't text or call. Do not respond if you don't block these things because it may lead him to think that you really are interested. Shutting him down leaves no doubt. If you run into him at school or other places, tell him you are not talking to him and to please ignore you because that is what you are doing with him. Don't be alone with him. Though he is young, it doesn't mean he's not the stalking type and you don't want to put yourself in a position where he can harm you if he is inclined to do so. If he does something wrong, tell your parents. The fact that this guy has been trying since you were 11 and hasn't gotten the message is really weird behavior on his part. Good luck to you and stay safe.1
Most Helpful Girl
He apparently can't understand and accept the way you feel about things... about him specifically. Maybe you could try to talk to him and help him understand that he's wasting his time and that he's not going to be happy if he keeps pressuring you to date him. It's probably not gonna work since you don't feel the same way. You both deserve to be happy and dating each other isn't going to bring you happiness. You could still be friends. And this really is not a cliche! You can totally be friends if you want to. Being friends with your crush is sooo underrated and it makes me sad. Being friends with someone that you'd want to date is amazingly positive and even if it doesn't work out to be what you wanted it to be, it can only bring you happiness. If the friendship is strong enough, once someone falls in love with the other person and the feeling isn't mutual, it can't be awkward enough to separate them. It will hurt but it will get better. And I really think you shouldn't settle for something that isn't what you really wanted, for something that doesn't make you truly happy. Happiness isn't a constant state of mind, that's true. People don't always make each other happy and that doesn't mean they don't love each other, also true. But if the love is one sided... it's not worth it. Him thinking you love him when you don't and you sticking around because of pity isn't the future you both deserve. Tell him what you feel, exactly how you feel, and you'll be fine. ^^1