So finally the day had come. My FB of three months decided to take me out on an actual date after I had "I wanna get to know you, and get serious" talk because we have a lot in common and seems like he was catching feelings as he started violating FB boundaries, and I like him too, as he is a nice person. After the talk, he seemed freaked out so I told him if he calls me, and plans a date, it's good. If not, good luck and he shouldn't stress out at all as I am not asking him to marry me. So after 4 days of silence, he said he decided to take me out on an actual date. We walked by the sea, went to a museum, grabbed some tea and sat by the harbor watching boats, birds, listening to music and stuff, we continued sharing some details about ourselves etc.
Then we had late lunch at a nice restaurant, where he asked for the check when I went to wash my hands, and one check came. So I grabbed my purse to get my card out, he said I don't have to pay, he will be paying as we are on a date, but I said "Don't worry, we both are adults earning money. You don't have to pay for me." So we agreed to split the bill. I did not want him to pay for me, when I got something more expensive than he got, and on top, I drank wine.
So now my best friend says that I sent him a wrong signal by not letting him pay, it means I did not really enjoy the time we spent. I know this question has been asked many times about dates etc. but did I really do something bad by not letting him pay? What would you think if this happened to you?
Most Helpful Guy
Baby steps. You are maintaining your distance.. and like this girl told me yesterday.."not trying to owe anyone"...
were you trying to send a signal? is the question we should be asking here.
I like it, you are treading carefully...(and ur friend is a moron)...
its hard to graduate from FB to dating... its usually because of lust not love and you are being cautious...
Free your mind girl... you did good.
(dont forget, this happened AFTER days of silence, spoken from a guy, this was a Hail Mary.)
and you didn't fall for it... your friend is a moron... :)2
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Most Helpful Girl
no i dont think you did the wrong thing. if anything you was being really sweet and understanding about wanting to go half as you said you're both earing. IF ANHTHING i think he will know you're not just wanting to grab and spend his money. if i were you i would tell him "thank you for the date, i had a great time" this clarifies you did see it as a date and you had an amazing time to put his thoughts at rest if he has any 🙂 hope i helped xo3