So a guy I know is currently living with his older brother. His brother has a wife and kids who also live there. Guy in question has kids of his own that don't currently live with him but would like too but can't because he doesn't have a house. This guy doesn't work but gets a government assistant payment and can also claim rent assistance so it's not a money issue. He says he hates burdening people with his problems and has been independent since he was a teenager but for the last 2 years he hasn't even bothered to look for his own place even tho he said him and his brother don't really get along so just curious to know why he would rather live with his brother and he's wife&kids instead of finding his own place to build a life of his own?
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Most Helpful Guy
It's possible that he wants to but doesn't have he means. Getting rental assistance may allow him to get a place but it doesn't mean he could afford electric, cable, food, water, internet, etc. It's also possible that he likes the stability and company that comes from his current situation. Not necessarily his brother but the environment in general.1
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i can't really relate in this situation, but in my opinion there's probably a combination of factors as to why he doesnt/isnt finding his own house.
he probably does want his own place, but:
a) where he is now is an easier situation to live with that trying to find somewhere new,
b) is safe for him - to get his own place would be a risk which may ultimately fail, and the idea of failure probably scares him. he's might be saving up for a while to get more financially secure before trying?
c) should he fail, pride would probably prevent him from getting help from his brother again which would land him in an even worse situation.
if you're close with him you should find a way to ask, and if appropriate, help him to find a place for himself :)1