I just got a text from a bartender who was flirting with me on Saturday night. I really liked him so I took a chance and gave him my number on the back of the receipt. I've been alone for 4 years since my divorce & I go through phases where I try to reach out and connect with guys, then I pull back and don't do anything. At the moment I'm in my "reaching out" phase. (G@G inspired me!)
He texted me this morning to let me know that he's married but he enjoyed meeting me, thinks I'm very attractive, etc. and hopes that I'll come back. I apologized for staying past closing as I had no idea of the time. I said "you should have just told me" but he said that he "enjoyed the attention" and "was probably trying to keep me there as long as he could."
I thanked him but said I am very respectful of marriage and I want him to "delete my number and go kiss his lovely wife."
He replied, "Do I have to? Just kidding. I hope you'll come back. I only work on Saturday nights."
Similarly, the cute flirty guy at the other bar I go to, told me yesterday he's married and then gave me his number! I could totally have a fling if he was single... but JUST NO.
This has happened a few times before, too. It's such a blow. I try to be fun and friendly, but I don't think I'm a "man-stealer." Why am I the "other" woman?
Or is it just that all the guys my age are taken?
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At least they told you before you were in full fling! Wow. That's rotten luck though. I've had the same problem. Got done with my "bad boy" phase and now I want a decent guy but they all turn out to be taken already. I know exactly the "why me" standpoint you're coming from. For me, I finally just chose to accept that I'm not the kind of girl whose dreams come true. Never been married. Never had a child. Home and family are all I've ever wanted and they are, dually, the only things I cannot seem to attain.1