Oh dear god!
Im getting to the end of my rope
I've been dating this guy for 2 months and he is asking me to move in
I've explained that it's to quick for me personally and he just goes in a bad mood.
I just met his parents and he is yet to meet mine as there been a few problems in my family and I'd rather that settle down before he meets them. But apparently I'm just taking forever... and I'm not taking things serious
i used to stay at his 4 days a week but I need time for me so I suggested 4 one week an 3 the next just so I can switch it up an have time to relax and do things that I need. I also work part time so need time to relax from that but he just doesn't get it. He doesn't work and is pretty lazy. I foun out from his family he has lost all his jobs from "being sick" I'm worried that he might be trying to get me to move in for my money. I know he only stayed with an ex for her money so I'm worried this is what is happening to me. I've lent him over 200 already so it's not a thought that's going away.
He always acts like a little brat. And I'm getting to the end of my rope!
I'm not in a relationship to financially support someone who doesn't respect my need to time alone and doesn't respect family boundaries. I don't know if he's just with me now for my money or not.
Help? I'm at a loss?
Oh dear god!
What Guys Said 1
"Doesn't work and is lazy" Say no more! Deal breaker!0
What Girls Said 2
This is a no brainer for me.
I would not be giving (no lending here because he doesn't have a job to repay that "loan") anyone money that I've only known for 2 months.
Sit down and ask him to work out a financial budget regarding bills and see how he reacts.
From what you've written, I'd swerve as he doesn't seem ambitious, eager to find new work and is borrowing money off you with no job.1
Sounds like he is with you for the money. 2 months is a bit too soon to ask someone to move in with them. If something doesn't feel right with him I would just cut off all contact with him whatsoever. He sounds like he does not respect your boundaries whatsoever and only wants you to move in so you can support him. You are your own person he should be working as well and supporting his self as well. All and all if I were you or in your shoes I would just cut off contact wit him immediately. Don't let someone use you for your money. Best of luck and take care.0
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