I'm 26 and I met a 52 year old divorced man, with a 10 year old son. He is attractive, and such a sweet soul. The way he cares about me and is so thoughtful, is making me fall for him. My parents are SUPER upset because he is the same age as them! Should I pursue? Thoughts?
Most Helpful Guy
I won't say absolutely no. But that is a big age difference and I think you need to proceed with caution and go very slowly. I think you need to think hard about what it really means to be with someone that much older.
The two of you are in very different places in your life. At your age, you are really only just getting started. At his age, he's completely established in his life and is probably thinking about retirement in a serious way.
Physically he's at a point in his life where he will start going down hill very quickly, and maybe already is. He'll need reading glasses. He is starting to lose muscle mass. So before long he'll be handing you the jar to open instead of the other way around. His stamina is dropping rapidly. His motivation, ambition, drive, and energy will be dropping.
He's not going to want to go out with the "kids" your age. Do you want to hang out with a bunch of old farts? Will you end up looking at what others your age are doing, the high energy fun stuff, and a part of you misses it? Will you pass by groups of people your age out having fun on a Friday night, while you are on your way to the grocery store to get a gallon of milk, then go home and sit around doing nothing?
His life is established. You will join his life. It would not be an equitable joining. You will not go out as a couple to buy your first furniture, your first set of dishes, decorations for your home, etc. You will not even pick a home together, at least not starting out. You'd probably move into his. Will you really feel at home in his house, or will you always feel like an outsider in HIS house?
Will you just skip past entire phases of your life, because you will not experience them in the same way as others your age?
I've thought about all these things, because when I was 50 I accidentally fell for someone your age online. In her case, she was someone who was unlikely to find someone else. Maybe I would have been the best thing for her. Ten years later, nothing happened, but we are still close, and she is still single and wishing she wasn't. In her case, it probably would have been a good thing if we had gotten together. She would probably have been happy.
That all happened completely by accident. But it gave me time to think about what it really meant for her. For me, it's easy. But for her, at her age she didn't have the same perspective about it as I did. She had not experienced those phases in life like I had.0
Most Helpful Girl
If You love him than go for it. Of course they will be against it. They worry he'll hurt you.
And yeah everyone will talk about him being in diapers later on but not all old people end up that way lol not everyone get stuck to there beds. Yes You have to be prepared for that but no it's not something that HAS to happen.
This is Your decision, it's Your life Your talking about don't let other people decide...0