I started seeing this guy and we've had a lot of confusion on whether or not we are just friends. So yesterday I called him up and started to share with him where I am at. I admitted that I have a lot of pride when it comes to guys and never want to be the "yes" girl who bends over backwards for guys, but I also want to give him (this guy) the opportunity to share where he's at before I shut down this relationship. I admitted, too, that I am not comfortable with conversations about "defining the relationship" or talking about what I want because it can come off harsh and demanding to some people. So- if I opened a pretty intimate discussion about where we are at and where we should go like that, would that make a guy run or would a guy appreciate statements like that?
In conclusion to our discussion, he said that he is comfortable with us defining things as dating because that's what I want. He said he's never really done that before, but is used to being friends for a long time first and then getting committed, so he admitted he's a little unfamiliar with the middle ground of dating. And he thanked me for being so open with him and that he appreciates that quality in me.
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I don't think that would discourage him from dating you. His reaction was quite positive if I am not mistaken.0