I'm finding myself become more and more self conscious , more insecure and more sad by the day. I honestly want to know what is wrong with me that guys consider other girls over me? I'm not ugly I have a great body I'm cute and short, I'm nice and understanding.. I have a really freaky side to me.. I'm goofy and I'm extremely loyal. What is it like seriously! I'm becoming worried am I gonna die alone. I'm honestly starting to just give up on love! I'm tired of trying to make somebody see why I'm a good fit for the consideration of being a girlfriend. What do I do that my friends don't. I think I'll just let it go and just take it for what it is.
Most Helpful Guy
From a relationship coaching perspective, here are a few things to think about:
You may very well have a freaky side to you and you may be very loyal but no one knows that unless they're dating you.
When you say guys consider other girls over you and that you are 'tired of trying to make somebody see' why you're a good fit, is this to say that you actively pursue guys? I ask this question because depending on how actively you pursue them, that could be an issue. Which leads to my next question.
Are you confident and do you exude confidence and good, positive energy around other people? The reason this matters is because if your day-to-day vibe is similar to what you've captured in this post (insecure, more sad by the day) than that could be an issue.
It becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. You feel sad and insecure, you wear it on your sleeve and others can see it--they don't 'consider' you. You try and make others see why you're a good for them but they see you trying too hard-they don't 'consider' you.
It truly is about confidence and how you carry yourself. One other element to think about is what situations you put yourself into to meet the right kind of guys--guys that would meet your needs.1
Most Helpful Girl
it depends on what situations you put yourself in/avoid. Are you social?
I gave up the whole "dating" thing after I had my daughter. There have been a couple of guys that I saw briefly, but both times my daughter's dad ruined it for me... yet he doesn't think I'm good enough for him either.
Everytime I have been involved with a guy, it's been sex based. I'm not THAT girl for guys. I'm good for one thing and that's it.
Now I know that for sure, I don't have to think about dating anymore. I was sad about it for a while, but it's actually nice to just be able to concentrate on more important things
Have you tried asking a guy out yourself? Maybe the ones you've met are just not sure of how interested you are?0