I do. Their ability to just not care about women baffles me and sometimes I wish I could feel that way after a break up or during a relationship, but I just get a rush of emotion. I kinda envy their ability to feel nothing and move on like the relationship meant nothing.
Most Helpful Guy
It's not that we don't feel anything. We feel - more than you realize. But we MANAGE those feelings differently, because our brains work differently and the societal expectations of men are VERY, VERY different than those of women - and most women are VERY quick to judge us harshly if they perceive us as "weak."
The other thing is: women can't move on from something until they've FELT every last feeling, from every possible angle and perspective, and processed those feelings in every conceivable way. Men are more like surgeons - we find the problem and we cut it out. There's still pain and loss of those things that get cut out, but by taking ACTION and separating ourselves from the source of the pain, we are able to recover much faster - which we HAVE to do, because we can't be seen being upset or hurt, or we'll be labeled "weak, whiny little bitches."
That's a completely different pressure that you don't think a lot about because, as women, you're ALLOWED to be emotional and to cry and feel hurt and upset around other people. It's socially acceptable - even encouraged. Imagine the pressure you'd feel if you had to contain all of that and never let anyone else see it - that's a man's daily life and exactly what we're expected to do.5
Most Helpful Girl
Men have feelings, what a ridiculous statement. I'm sorry that you've obviously come across some that don't have feelings towards YOU but to say that they are all unfeeling is just unfounded and reeks of bitterness.
If anything it's more difficult for men to openly express their feelings due to the masculine stigma against having softer/gentler emotional tendencies. Many men I know show them once they know they can trust you - just as I'm ok to ask for help once I know they won't take advantage of that weakness.
Instead of wondering what's wrong with them I'd be working on my own shortcomings and accepting that sometimes relationships just don't mean as much to some people - that doesn't mean all of that gender are unfeeling0
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