My boyfriend has been sad lately here and there, I believe it has something to do with his family as they are having issues (alcoholic cheating father). He says he doesn't wanna talk about it and while I want him to open up to me ik I can't make him. I just want to be supportive and let him know I care and am there for him. We are going to celebrate our 2 months soon and we are pretty close so far. He's said he loves me and I don't know how I feel yet, all ik is that I really care about him despite some differences and when he's sad I'm sad, is that love or just compassion? How do I stop being sad when he's sad?
Most Helpful Guy
From a relationship coaches lens, you are said when your boyfriend is sad because you're empathetic--this is a good thing.
To your question of 'is that love or just compassion?', I think you answered that question when he said he loved you and you said 'I don't know how I feel yet'. When it comes to love, if you don't know, than no. It's not something that requires thought.0
Most Helpful Girl
It's because you care about him. You can empathise with him when he feels sad.
I feel that way too when my boyfriend is sad. It's because It hurts me to see him so discouraged, so I want to try to alleviate his pain.
You don't need to stop yourself from feeling sad when he's sad. It shows just how compassionate you are. That's a great quality to have. If a person is compassionate it's part of who they are. You can't force yourself to stop feeling compassion , just like you can't force a person to feel compassion for others if they have no empathy.. regarding other people's pain0