Okay, first of all: I don't judge people just based on their looks. I would sound vain if I said that, right?
But it does seem like all the physically attractive people are more often single than not. Why is that? Maybe our assumption of them already dating is what's feeding this, may I say toxic, circle of never ending singleness. 👐🏼💍("all the single ladies x 3" reference)
And I myself am not ugly and although my ego wants me to say I'm gorgeous (lol jk 💅🏼)... Anyway, do any of you get this feeling sometimes? How do we #singlefam here make a splash in the dating pool, you think?
Most Helpful Guy
It's either 2 things:
1. On the woman side (thanks to hypergamy of female nature) many women hold out for their prince charming, who is usually an amazing guy high in looks, money, social status. This is even more prevalent among beautiful women because they are told by society that they shouldn't settle and thanks to social media have high egos of their perceived self worth.
2. In case of men. Many men also suffer from same thing as women in that they won't get into a relationship unless the person is really amazing. However, in the case of guys who are good looking is that they can get sex on tap very easily. So guys who want sex don't need to get into relationship for consistent sex as they can get it outside of a relationship. So for said guys they opt to be single.
3. Attractive men and women are also single due to a phenomenon known as the beauty isolation. Many people assume an attractive person is taken and don't bother approaching or asking them out, or they feel too intimidated to approach said person because they believe they would get shut down.
Most Helpful Girl
well to be honest, I understand your question. I was not very pretty in my teens , most people were making fun of my small size and curly hair.
Around 19 years old , I was pretty but had a 'baby face' i was not very successful neither , in my mid twenties , I was ok but still baby face lol , now I am 33 years old and i am considered HOT. god knows why , but wherever i go, i certainly get a lot of attention from men and woman too.
even looking at myself , i know , and can see i am HOT. haven't done anything to change this at all. But my features, getting older are getting better, i am more confident also.
The truth , i am not used to have attention , and pretty much been single all my life. So it's a bit weird for me to be wanted.
the people i know in the recent 3 years , always said that i can't be single, that i must be complicated , if i say ' i dont know how to flirt ' they think i am lying or trying to get attention, when really its true. i am very shy, can't flirt and i am always very uncomfortable to have guys wanting to date me etc.
I have 5 dude on my case atm , 4 of them texted me to date tonight. but i dont want to go because i am not sure i like them enough. and because i dont understand why they like me really.1
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