I was in a relationship with my African boyfriend for 3yrs now. I am very sad and hurt so bad i thought his the one for me, but i until i found out snooping his wallet i found ID picture of 3yr old girl just look like him and even i snooping his cellphone will he was sleeping. I think thats his child 😭😭. I love him so so much. I did told him today afternoon is he married and he says his not married and i told him did he have children or kids and he says No. And he told me if his married and have child he didn't want me to come see him anymore and he can spend more with his family.
But he didn't admit to me about the child.. 😢
And i want to tell him the truth that i secertly snooped through. how can explain it too him. i love him so much.. why done this to me. promise me..
Most Helpful Guy
calm... down... problem have solution...
you seen that pic.
you can directly ask him or if you don't want to his feeling then become a detective and find more evidences.
best way is to directly ask him.
you are his girlfriend.
you have right to open and use his phone and right to know about. you not with him for sex only. you are serious right.
then ask him.
and losing bad is never a loss.
if he is wrong it's mean he is wrong.
even you know that you love him. but somewhere inside in your heart also know that you cannot stay with a person like.
hmm... directly ask him.
be simple and straight.
best of luck.
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Most Helpful Girl
Maybe it's a friends child or relatives or even a younger sibling.
If it is his, that's a huge secret to keep. I'd wouldn't be able to restrain myself from confronting him. I'd ask him why he felt the need to keep that from me.
If it is his, then you're going to find it difficult to trust him again. Once someone lies to you once, every truth becomes questionable
I wouldn't be able to stay with a guy who'd lied to me for three years. That's a deal- breaker for me. It's a sign of lack of respect. It's devious too , regardless of his motive for lying1