Before meeting, he told me he was a tad bit shy. But when we met for dinner he didn't seem shy at all. We talked all through dinner & he asked me to get coffee after. I had to decline the offer for coffee since I had to work the next day & it was getting late. He didn't try to kiss me, which was fine (and refreshing since most guys try very hard on date one), but told me he'd message me to set up another date. I texted him after & told him I had a great time. He said the same & told me I looked pretty. But that was it.
We set the second date for the following Wednesday (3 days ago). We met for dinner after work. (We live & work in separate cities, about 30-45 mins apart.) Again, it was great! Within 15 minutes of that date, he asked for a third. We talked for 3 hours. He paid for dinner & walked me to my car & gave me a one armed hug goodbye. I didn't receive a message from him until the next day, but there was absolutely no reference to the previous night's date. (No "Thanks for meeting me" or "I enjoyed dinner" etc.) We haven't set the third date, yet, but since we've met, it seems our communication has lessened (on his part) & responses are often hours apart. I don't need to communicate ALL the time, & I'm actually happy to date someone who isn't rushing things. But, I'm also confused. Our communication now indicates he may have lost interest... but yet he keeps asking me out. He doesn't SEEM like the just-looking-for-a-hookup type, & I don't get that vibe from him. (Though I'm aware I could be naive to this.) Why would a guy keep asking you out on dates, yet give LESS indication that he likes you than he did prior to meeting? He refers to them as dates, by the way. Not "hanging out" or meeting as friends. I date a lot, so I typically feel confident reading men, but this one is throwing me for a loop.