I met a guy I really liked online 6 weeks ago. We had a great first date. There seemed to be chemistry but he was quite insistent that if I wanted to see him again, I should set up a second date (which I thought was a bit strange... a bit insecure). I asked him on a second date and he suggested that we meet at his house for dinner. I wasn't really comfortable with this so asked if we could get to know each other a bit outside his house. He seemed fine with that. Then, the day of the date he asked to postpone until the end of the week. I said that would be ok and to let me know when worked. He didn't respond. 2-3 weeks later, completely out of the blue, he messaged me to ask how I was and how my weekend went! I answered that I was good and that my weekend had been fun. He sent an emoji in response and then disappeared again. It has now been 2 weeks. I shoud've confronted him about the ghosting when he contacted me again but obviously didn't! Now, I think it's too late. A couple of days later, I sent him a message about something related to his work I'd seen in the news. Again, he replied but no offer of a date. I don't get it! It's one thing to ghost (I would've assumed he wasn't that into me) but why return weeks later to send a "friendly" message? I was really attracted to him otherwise I'd just brush it off. Should I ask him out? or is he clearly not interested? Will he return again?
Not interested or waiting for me to chase?
What Guys Said 2
He seems to have convenient interest in you. When it suits him he'll message you with interest but nothing more. I think the fact he wanted you at his home for the second date is a sign of what his intentions really are with you.1
He lost interest sadly. Just move on. Who cares anyway he's the one who's missing out. You're better of without that guy.1
What Girls Said 1
You should ask him out. It's worth a shot.0
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