i just found out the man iv been with since i was 12 has been dressing in lingerie and using dildos on himself he's also talking with trans people i think he said he was just curious and it was a 1 time thing wtf do i do im super turned off by all of it!
Most Helpful Guy
Ok, don't freak out. He isn't gay. I also love lingerie. It is fetish and kink. He likes to crossdress. I have had a fascination with women's lingerie since I first saw them in "Penthouse" magazine when I was kid. I just love how they feel and fit. Very different from what our underwear is like. Since they are meant for women, there is also a taboo element to it that is also extremely exciting. Pretty much all men that are into women's lingerie are straight and still make great lovers and partners. Nothing about it makes them gay. They are still interested in women's stuff, not men's, so not gay at all. Crossdressing is among the least accepted and least understood and therefore least mutually enjoyed fetishes there are. Many women jump to negative conclusions, like you, before trying to understand and even embrace it. This is why he keeps it secretive. We know it is not well received, plus, it is a very shameful and embarrassing fetish too. No body brags about it. This is why he talks to other people with similar interests, because he knows you will freak and not accept it. At the end of the day, this is simply a "role playing" thing that is just as innocent as any other adult enjoyed fetish or kink.
I do totally understand why this turns you off. You want your man to be a man, not look and feel like a woman. I totally get that. My wife totally hates it, never accepted it and actually thought I was turning gay too when she first found out. For me, it was the sexy fabrics and materials and how they fit me that made it sexy and such a turn on. She gets nothing out of it. She lets me do it once in a while, but I don't over do it because I know she doesn't like it. But this does cause a bit of conflict between us because it is something I like and she doesn't. Not something worth breaking up over, but not something I can live without either. Compromise is the key. I hope you are able to have an open mind. It goes both ways, he needs to be respectable about it with you too. Feel free to PM me if you want to talk more about it.0
Most Helpful Girl
Okay? No one forces you to keep seeing him.0