Most Helpful Guy
Being friends with benefits will NOT (I repeat: NOT!!!) change someone's mind into having feelings, especially if that someone has a penis.
friends with benefits is for people who don't want a relationship (at least, not at that particular time in their lives), but still want sex. And a friends with benefits means that you are agreeing to use each other for sex because sex is all you're looking for - and THAT YOU HAVE NO EXPECTATIONS OF A RELATIONSHIP DEVELOPING.
If you have feelings for someone, and hope to have a relationship with them, then you are straight-up lying to them by agreeing to be friends with benefits, because friends with benefits is for people who do NOT have those hopes or expectations.
The truth is that most women cannot have FWBs successfully - their brains are meant to bond with the person they're having sex with, and get emotionally attached. Men's brains don't work that way - our brains evolved differently because we have a different role in reproduction - we're able to separate sex from feelings, and we want sex from FAR, FAR more women than we want relationships with.
Of course, there are exceptions on both sides of the fence, but that doesn't make the "rule" any less valid.
A friends with benefits is an "advanced" adult relationship - for people who are emotionally mature and understand what they're getting themselves into, and are okay with the limitations. Not everyone can do that, and that's okay - you just have to be honest with yourself that you're not the type of person who could handle it. That doesn't make it work for others to choose a friends with benefits, though - some people handle it just fine and even prefer it.
You have to know yourself and be honest with yourself, and make your own decisions based on what you know about yourself. Let others do what's best for them, and you do you.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
- They either fear commitment or they just don't feel like being committed or they have had negative experiences with their previous relationships and they would much rather be single and enjoy life.
- They'd rather sleep with someone they consider their friend because that makes them feel safer compared to a stranger.
- They spend a lot of time together which means that they can learn how to get off each other (which doesn't easily happen on ONS).
- No strings attached sex (which means they are free from the drama relationships bring).
I would never get involved in a friends with benefits situation, because they do not work for me. I understand that they can work for other people though.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE