I TRULY do not get that, i think these women don't deserve to have children. My own mother NEVER chose a man above her own children EVER, she ALWAYS chose us and when she got divorced she stayed on her own instead of getting another man in the house because she didn't wanted us to go through all that, she didn't want to hurt us and she said that she will get a man when we are all out of the house, my mother is a very smart woman and the number one advice she gave me is too watch out who you hang around with. Because of the love of my mom i respect myself a lot and never let a guy use me. But another girl i know told me her mom chose drugs above her own kids and later she got off drugs when a man came into her life... like wtf, how? how can you do that? your kids will Always be there for you but your husband can leave you any second...
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My mom blindly prefers me over my dad. In fact, she blindly perfers me over herself. Most of the parents care a lot about their children. It is called maturity. They chose to go for a child. They realise that they have done everything in their life and don't want seek for pleasure anymore like partying, drugs, purchasing expensive things etc. They get a decent job and invest their money for the better future of their children and the cycle goes on.
But some people are never done with their pleasures. Drug addicts, sex addicts, gold-diggers... they just can't get enough in life. And some opt for children just for the sake of the social norm. They don't care much. We cannot expect everyone to behave in specific manner.
I'm not saying that people should not enjoy their life. Smart people know how to manage their time and money. They spend money on themselves, but they don't need a reason, they don't rely on someone else to mould their habits.
I don't believe that children will always be there for their parents, but parents must take the responsibility if they decided to have a child.0
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One of my sisters is like that. These are usually the kind of women who have no business having kids and are genuinely not cut out to be mothers. My sister has low self-esteem, has always been desperate for acceptance, doesn't want to grow up/age and is self-centered except for when it comes to a man. She has always been a man chaser, has just always been desperate to have a man--that is really all she has ever wanted in life.
The kids are a mistake; they're not planned (with one exception, see below). A lot of these women don't actually want kids, and it's never something they sat down and thought they wanted someday... so they could care less about doing right by their kids. In my sister's case, she's honestly a big wh0re. If you're a woman who loves sex and sleeps around, especially if you hate condoms, then, obviously, you will get pregnant at some point. Women like this will have abortions at times (which she did at least twice) and just go ahead and have the kids other times (like if they have a man in their life) and just keep going the same way they always have with their life despite having kids. My sister has had 4 kids with 3 different men and has passed one of the kids off as the child of the 3rd man (who she married), so she's saying three of the kids are his when really just two of them are.
How I said the kids are not really wanted... that's true, but sometimes women USE kids to get to or keep a man. My sister's first child is one she had on purpose to try to make the child's father commit to her, and it didn't work. Because of this, she hates her daughter and has always treated her like garbage and worse than the two kids that she "had" with her husband (the 4th child died). The funny thing is that same daughter has now turned around and had a child just to "trap" a particular man, and she is also a horrible mother and the man also still does not want her.0