My love life isn't that great. I've just been living and going with the flow. I had a high school relationship but since then I've only been involved in flings. The guys I meet and spend time with aren't interested in relationships. It doesn't bother me because I have school and starting a career to focus on. I've been having fun anyway and have some great memories. And they aren't bad guys they just prefer easy causal dating/flings.
People are getting to me and telling me if I don't start dating seriously now it'll be harder to when I'm older. Is this true?
Most Helpful Guy
I think they are wrong. One way to think of dating is that there are a finite number of guys you will have the opportunity to meet, and you can only marry one. The optimal strategy is to just sample the first 37% of those guys without choosing any of them. Then marry the next one you meet who is better than any of the guys you have previously met.
So I think you are doing the right thing -- meet a bunch of guys to get an idea who is out there and what works for you. Then when you do get serious, you will make an informed decision. This is much much better than just getting serious with the first guy who will have you.0
Most Helpful Girl
The reason why I think people say it'll be harder is, if there are a certain number of males available in your area that you would be able to date due to age, then reduce the number to straight guys (or straight/bi guys depending on what you're okay with), then reduce the number to eliminate the 'douches' in that group, then reduce the number depending on how picky you are, that is the overall pool of guys you have to pick from. As time goes on, that pool in general will probably diminish as the good guys get picked up by other girls and enter serious relationships/marriage. What this doesn't account for are individuals moving into/out of your area. But you can see why in general, people will tell you to start dating seriously now. I think this is also the reason why people tell older singles that you can't be picky, since they believe older singles have less to choose from.
However, I think it depends.
If it's common for many people in your chosen field to be married/in a serious relationship early (in their 20's) then you may have difficulty. Since most of the people you will meet will be related to work, and single coworkers are usually more likely to have single friends (and married people tend to have married friends, especially if they have children).
It also depends on your location. Generally people tend to stay single longer in large cities versus a small town. Also in cities you are more likely to have other singles who will put off a serious relationship due to career ambitions.
It can be difficult to meet people, usually it's through friends or coworkers. The next most common ways people meet are through being part of a common group (church/soccer team/volunteer group/etc), a bar, or online.
If you want to have casual relationships, now is the time to do it though, since you can't exactly have a casual relationship later (unless you get married and then divorced). Personally, I wouldn't worry about it until late 20's early 30's. That is probably the time to start seriously dating if you desire a serious relationship/marriage at some point in your future. I think it is becomes significantly more difficult past mid 30's early 40's.0