And do you think it matters if you don't have much in common? I feel like my lifestyle is so different from others and I wonder how I can ever be with someone again because I feel like I've lost myself a little, my life is pretty boring as well and with depression it's hard finding things that still interest you. I feel as though I don't have a lot to talk about with people anymore and I don't know if it's just me or my lifestyle. It's like I've forgotten how to date and end up not knowing if I've said something I shouldn't have.
Most Helpful Guy
With my wife I found we have incredibly high "meta-commonality".
That is, we didn't start out sharing much of the same interests but once she showed me her interests, and once I showed her mine, we started to assimilate each other's interests.
Likewise when we try something new, we generally both like it or both don't.
I had girls with whom I had more common interests initially but we drifted a bit over time as far as interests. With my wife, it was opposite. We started off with fewer common interests but grew closer together over time.0
Most Helpful Girl
Yes I do, and I do think it's important. You don't even have to be this super social, activities oriented person. I'd say most people are pretty boring. Like you get so busy that all you want to do is Netflix and chill. You want to have something in common so that when you both have free time you can cut the monotony with doing something else outside of the usual, which you can do individually but it's better to do together so that you're still building on your relationship. If you're not interested in anything at all then at least be willing to try something new because it's a big deal once you're committed for the long haul.0