I’m a 20 year old black female who is currently in my first year of university, I’m a born and raised Canadian who has lived across Canada. I would love to begin actively dating yet I want to know how do you make a guy like you? I’m quite shy but I’m friendly and ensure that I at least say hi or bye to an individual following our “small talks” I’m also a great listener as I spend most of my time listening to individuals when they speak or complain to me about something. At school two of the guys I converse with the most our conversations are mainly about classes and assignments or what they are doing on the weekends. I would love to meet someone and date but I feel as if there must be something pushing guys away from me I currently signed up for a year gym membership in order to get fit as I’m 5ft and weigh 187 but strangely most of the fat went to me legs ! I’m working on myself and would love to get some advice on how I can attract the right guy who I can feel comfortable with and hopefully enjoy a respectable and fufilling relationship.
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I really think work on both at the same time to maximize your chances.
>> I’m also a great listener as I spend most of my time listening to individuals when they speak or complain to me about something.
A great listener is passive in nature. A guy usually needs a bit more to know you dig him than just you listening intently, though that definitely helps.
I think the easiest way for a shy person is develop a playful attitude towards it. It'll tend to help with your entire social life, not just guys but making friends in general, getting along better with colleagues, everything.
You don't gain much control over your life being a passive person in the social realm. You don't have to lose the qualities of being a great listener but it also helps to become someone people love to listen to as well.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE