Lets be flat out honest with ourselves, guys have physical needs greater than women. I think it is perfectly okay to let a girl know that if she isn't putting out within the first 5-10 dates, then I am going to start looking elsewhere. Some think it is mean, but I am being honest up front. If you take to long to put out, then I am down the road jack.
Is it Okay to Pressure Girls into Sex?
What Girls Said 13
Are you out of your mind? Sex is a WANT, NOT a NEED. If you can't learn to control your sexual urges then whose fault is that? Not her's. Your's. I believe in waiting the way God intended: Saving sex for marriage. Even in marriage, it is a mutual agreement. You're not going to die from lack of sex. Men get blue balls because of:
1. They are already sexually active and haven't had sex in a while
2. Not having better self-discipline and self-control and indulged in Masturbating. Which can lower sperm count and cause physical problems such as Fatigue and depression.
3. In response to masturbation, your watching porn, which is also making you have a more dire need for sexual stimulation. Again, goes right back to #2. Take steps #2 and #3 and repeat.
That is what many of you are doing to yourselves. And yes, while I know guys can still get blue balls even if they never had sex, masturbated or watched porn before. But if they have better self-control, chances of getting blue balls is far more minimum. Yep, did my research so no excuses.
You have the right to lay down what your look for on the 1st date. Don't wait till things get too emotionally involved for you to look for sex. Say it to her straight. Don't say how you expect this and that you refuse to tell her what your intentions are. But if that is your attitude understand us women have terms and conditions also. But never it is okay to pressure anybody for sex. That is why I refuse to date today. I so refuse to avoid guys who are thinking women are to be used for sex. You are not illegally married to these women, therefore you don't go around demanding something that has nothing to do with courting/dating a woman. Don't like it, keep it moving. I respect guys who don't beat around the bush before I start accusing them win the reality is they just want sex. Besides if you treat women poorly the less likely they would want to have sex with you anyway.2
Go look somewhere else, then.4
No it isn't. Its rape. If they take 'long to put out' and you're not okay with it then clearly she isn't the one for you.4
Its never okay to push anyone (male or female) in whatever subject. It should be free will.1
I don't think it's right to pressure anyone for sex. Leaving is good if you can't respect her and her needs as well, it isn't going to work anyway.1
it is okay1
What Guys Said 11
yes you are right guys have much more physical needs than girls...
that's an way to show. love and insure that she only loves you...
BUT TRUST ME THE THING YOU ARE DOING IS TOTALLY WRONG.
winning a heart is always important...
anyone can win a body...
first go and learn how to love...
Sex is not everything...
if you are only for sex then do a favour on yourself and her... leave her...
guys like you just want sex. play with feeling and emotions and in last make other like. yourself...
trust me being a Boy like you is very easy..
and there are many boys like you in this world...
respect a women and value her feeling..
be a men before entering and falling in love and relationship
and treat her like a gentleMen...
"I think it is perfectly okay to let a girl know that if she isn't putting out within the first 5-10 dates"
I think its fine to have that mentality. Realistically most girls have had sex by the third date or even sooner with a few of their previous partners so if you're paying to take her out and she still hasn't slept with you by the 5th date then she probably isn't as attracted to you as she was to the other guys. She perceives you as being of lower quality and I don't blame you for not wantung to waste your time on a girl who isn't as excited to sleep with you as she was with her exes.
That being said, I don't see the value in actually telling her about this ultimatum. Just keep trying to naturally progress towards sex and if doesn't happen by the 5th date then just stop seeing her without saying anything.0
No need to pressure them. With a little patience they will ride the D like it's their last D ever, just when they decide to come to you1
Well, if you're not looking for commitment, it's better to declare your intent early on, than to string her along unknowingly, so that she can decide whether you're worth her effort. I wouldn't call that pressure, rather as you said, "being upfront".1
Why the hell would that be okay?3
Girls have emotional needs though, and using them for our pleasure can cause them pain. It's where we need to be patient1
5 - 10 dates? More like 2 - 4.1
I really don't know. I am all for being up front and honest. Also I don't think such an ultimatum is a good idea2
This question came out of nowhere lol, i kinda get where you're coming from but the way you're saying it is so bad xD0
This isn't being honest, this is having the wrong priorities.
Plus, it's kinda of a waste to lose someone that might be really good for you only because you diverged on something that stupid.