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Are you out of your mind? Sex is a WANT, NOT a NEED. If you can't learn to control your sexual urges then whose fault is that? Not her's. Your's. I believe in waiting the way God intended: Saving sex for marriage. Even in marriage, it is a mutual agreement. You're not going to die from lack of sex. Men get blue balls because of:
1. They are already sexually active and haven't had sex in a while
2. Not having better self-discipline and self-control and indulged in Masturbating. Which can lower sperm count and cause physical problems such as Fatigue and depression.
3. In response to masturbation, your watching porn, which is also making you have a more dire need for sexual stimulation. Again, goes right back to #2. Take steps #2 and #3 and repeat.
That is what many of you are doing to yourselves. And yes, while I know guys can still get blue balls even if they never had sex, masturbated or watched porn before. But if they have better self-control, chances of getting blue balls is far more minimum. Yep, did my research so no excuses.
You have the right to lay down what your look for on the 1st date. Don't wait till things get too emotionally involved for you to look for sex. Say it to her straight. Don't say how you expect this and that you refuse to tell her what your intentions are. But if that is your attitude understand us women have terms and conditions also. But never it is okay to pressure anybody for sex. That is why I refuse to date today. I so refuse to avoid guys who are thinking women are to be used for sex. You are not illegally married to these women, therefore you don't go around demanding something that has nothing to do with courting/dating a woman. Don't like it, keep it moving. I respect guys who don't beat around the bush before I start accusing them win the reality is they just want sex. Besides if you treat women poorly the less likely they would want to have sex with you anyway.2THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE