okay, so i find us making a lot of eye contact, and we laugh a lot.. he's really nice to me and one time i got out of the car and little piece of my underwear line was visible when someone made a comment about it he laughed and said he didn't mind... also his dad had said "woah who is she and he said oh, thats (my name) , thats my buddies girl. over all i just get these different vibes from him. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years we have been through a good bit together but i dont feel the same and i am over the constant arguing. im not happy. and everytime i see his friend i am happy, and i see so many good qualities in him and i wanna be with him in the worst way. but the other issue here, when i first got with my boyfriend i hooked his friend up with a friend of mine who i dont talk to anymore and cheats on him and treats him bad. i want to tell him how i feel about him but i dont know how to go about doing it. am i wrong? how do i go about doing this? does it seem like his friend is kinda crushing to or? to be real with myself i have always had a crush on him, when i first moved to this state i seen his friend on social media before i did him and i always wanted to talk to him but was to scared until i got to know him and seen how great he is... good idea or bad idea to tell him about my feelings? should i tell my boyfriend my feelings? what do i do?
- tell him my feelings, go with my heartVote A
- leave it be for the sake of their friendshipVote B
- other opinions on how to tell them both how i feelVote C
Most Helpful Guy
The lack of introspection just smacks me right in the face here. You've been with your boyfriend for two years and no longer feel the same? Does this sound at all familiar to anyone else here?
Swapping your boyfriend for another will not change a thing but you, like most people, simply do not see it. Oh it will feel good for a while, his good qualities will shine at first but you will end up just as dissatisfied as you are now.
So ultimately, what you do or do not do, will not make any difference. What you are seeing in the other guy is simply new butterflies, novelty, uncharted lands and due to not really knowing him, you are able to build up a much more exciting fantasy, and this fantasy reignites the chemicals that you used to feel on a daily basis with your current boyfriend.
The relationship takes two to fail and it's a 50/50 thing BUT often the core reason why it fails and why you seek another is because you have a poor relationship with yourself. Fix that and everything else will fall into place. But doing so is much more challenging than any bad external relationship. The personal relationship people have with themselves is the leading cause of cheating, emotional cheating, crushes, divorces and looking for replacements.1
Most Helpful Girl
Probably Crushing on you Here, dear.
Leave this alone. You have a Boyfriend. This guy is His Best friend. Don't lead him on to Believe you have any Feeling, this is a raw sort of Dealing.
Think of it if this was You on the other End, my Friend. You are just Crushing and Mushing yourself.
Good Luck. xx1