I have contact based anxiety so sex is a no go for me. I don't know what to tell myself so I don't freak out?
Basically, my boyfriend and I used to kiss a lot, and he accidentally triggered my anxiety one night touching my sides. It shook me up and made me scared because the touch made me flashback to something that happened where I had no control over the situation. After that I have been too scared to make out with him because I don't want it to lead to sex or make me feel anything sexual.
I go to therapy but I want to be able to be with him if we get back together (he said I should focus on getting better and that he still loves me) so what should I do so I don't have anxiety over this?
Most Helpful Guy
I used to get panic attacks at work because during busy times I felt like I was not performing well. They ONLY GOT WORSE no matter what I did. So I took a vacation. When I came back, they stopped for a while, but eventually came back, so I quit.
Keep trying if it's something you want to be able to do someday, but don't rush it. Let your head take time to heal.0
Most Helpful Girl
I think you need to discuss your issue with him and tell him that you would rather go a little slower. If he is a decent person, he will wait till you feel more comfortable.0