I have contact based anxiety so sex is a no go for me. I don't know what to tell myself so I don't freak out?
Basically, my boyfriend and I used to kiss a lot, and he accidentally triggered my anxiety one night touching my sides. It shook me up and made me scared because the touch made me flashback to something that happened where I had no control over the situation. After that I have been too scared to make out with him because I don't want it to lead to sex or make me feel anything sexual.
I go to therapy but I want to be able to be with him if we get back together (he said I should focus on getting better and that he still loves me) so what should I do so I don't have anxiety over this?
Most Helpful Guy
I used to get panic attacks at work because during busy times I felt like I was not performing well. They ONLY GOT WORSE no matter what I did. So I took a vacation. When I came back, they stopped for a while, but eventually came back, so I quit.
Keep trying if it's something you want to be able to do someday, but don't rush it. Let your head take time to heal.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Girl
I think you need to discuss your issue with him and tell him that you would rather go a little slower. If he is a decent person, he will wait till you feel more comfortable.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE