I feel like I should have this question nailed down, answered, and overcome by now, but truth is: I don't. Lately, I feel like the the few guys that I have liked have turned me down, rejected me, ghosted me, and flaked on me. Yet, the guys I have not been into still try to talk to me. I am not one of those girls that will shut down a nice guy, but I just felt like values and personalities didn't clique with those guys. I am the kind of person who is always focusing on self-growth and improvement and I have grown abundantly over the past few years, so I just don't understand why I am still experiencing this. I feel like I am unworthy of love. Rejection can at times take a toll on my self-esteem as it starts to make me question what I am doing wrong. I feel like dating is a game and it sucks because I hate games... My greatest weakness might be that I am a little shy and reserved at times but I don't believe that I have let that define me in my the dating realm.. I am also a very interesting, deep, passionate, driven, kind, caring, empathetic, selfless, and smart person. I enjoy being silly as well.. So I could definitely use some advice right about now?
Most Helpful Guy
I feel the exact same way. It's painful and I'm still feeling this pain since I have never found a girlfriend. I still haven't figured it out. But one thing I have noticed is when you are active and following your hobbies or going out with friends you don't think about it so much and therefore you don't feel depressed. The days when you are just laying in bed or on the sofa browsing the web you will feel depressed about it and you won't be able to forget about it, at least for me. The last few months I haven't been that active I have stopped some good habits and haven't been to the gym for a while (because of money) and have been lazier since the holidays and I have been depressed and lonely. Also working out makes you happier so do that.1
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Most Helpful Girl
I just wrote a MyTake that discusses rejection because I have been seeing a lot of this sentiment. I am 35. Back when I was dating, online dating and apps weren't a thing. If you were going to meet someone, you had to go out. Inherently, you were going to be rejected a lot... maybe the guy has a girlfriend, maybe they are taking a break from dating, maybe they don't like red hair, etc... but you used the opportunity to meet interesting people, network, and make new friends. Rejection is a part of life. If you are ambitious, it is a big part of life. Every path to success usually has multiple rejection points. The key is to look at rejection as an opportunity - an opportunity to refine yourself, or to learn what you want or don't want, or to prepare you for something great in the future.1