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Most Helpful Girl
They're usually referred to as battered women. When you're in those relationships, those times he didn't beat you up meant you didn't do anything to provoke him, that things were good. You don't think "This guy is shit and I have to get out of here" because he says he loves you, he's sorry, but you had to be corrected. You think "I have nowhere to go, and he'll change. I know he can". I talk often about my abusers because it's always on my mind. Every time someone yells or slams a door or even just looks at me a certain way and I feel threatened, like it's going to happen again. But if you let her talk to her ex you have no reason to talk. I talked to mine and made things so much harder to get out of. I felt guilty and like everything was my fault and that I broke her heart, when really I should've stayed away and healed. So don't get mad she goes back to him if you don't try to stop her from contacting him or from responding to him.1THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE
Most Helpful Guy
might take a bit if i really like the girl but if you realy are into her to take the bad with the good and just work with her till she is comfortablr with yu snd make better memrys till she doesn't bring it up.
i mean women like that have no one to talk to or explain things to the whole time there with the ass hole who abused them. your gonna be there pillow , there emotional punching bag and everything else til they get it out of there system.
you have to be the rock they never had before and it might take a while but things will get better over time you just need the patients and the love for the girl to be able to be there and not question anything because she is doing something she probably has never done in years if it was a really abusive relationship.
let her feel around till she feels like she can be the women she once was.
i know most people think this is just a bullshit explanation to get in the girls pants but it isn't.
its all about making her feel safe and wanted and never alone. hell if you have weapons let her have a hand at them give her some training build up some of her confidence. . be the yes guy when she needs it and the no guy on her terms and it seems like im some kind of feminist lover but its not that.
i just think women who go through that kind of thing need assurance there gonna be safe and nothing will harm them.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE