Basically, like, every girl I've either dated, met, or heard of with an abusive ex seems to be completely fucking obsessed with the guy, either always talking about him, occasionally talking with him, and, eventually, fondly reminiscing about the few times he didn't beat her up. Fucking why? Basically every girl I know that was in a shifty relationship is like this. And they usually treat their current boyfriend like crappie because he's just a placeholder until she inevitably goes back to the ex. And if he wasn't abusive and was just a shitty boyfriend, they're even more obsessed. Tbh, I think it'd be best to avoid girls that were once in real bad relationships.
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Most Helpful Girl
This can go either way. I've had some fucked up exes and I don't miss any of them. Some of them are dead because karma happened and they got what was coming to them. I'm older than you though of course. I'm still waiting for karma to pay a few more people their comeuppance. The point is, I don't miss any of that at all. I also don't tell new people too much of that but once I get a bad vibe off someone I just stop seeing them. I can see it coming my way now. I choise singletude because my life has always been hard from abusive parents to abusive partners and that's kind of what happend what you grow up with it. I'm a grown woman and don't expect anyone to fix me but me though. So you don't need to be Captain Save a Ho. You need to find a woman who doesn't have crazy exes around who are probably following her trying to beat you up for trying to date her and shit. Men are meant to solve problems, not create them but you aren't meant to solve the problems other men created and if those chicks want those type of dudes, they aren't worth it.0
Most Helpful Guy
might take a bit if i really like the girl but if you realy are into her to take the bad with the good and just work with her till she is comfortablr with yu snd make better memrys till she doesn't bring it up.
i mean women like that have no one to talk to or explain things to the whole time there with the ass hole who abused them. your gonna be there pillow , there emotional punching bag and everything else til they get it out of there system.
you have to be the rock they never had before and it might take a while but things will get better over time you just need the patients and the love for the girl to be able to be there and not question anything because she is doing something she probably has never done in years if it was a really abusive relationship.
let her feel around till she feels like she can be the women she once was.
i know most people think this is just a bullshit explanation to get in the girls pants but it isn't.
its all about making her feel safe and wanted and never alone. hell if you have weapons let her have a hand at them give her some training build up some of her confidence. . be the yes guy when she needs it and the no guy on her terms and it seems like im some kind of feminist lover but its not that.
i just think women who go through that kind of thing need assurance there gonna be safe and nothing will harm them.0