I'm super inexperienced with dating and sexual stuff but the guy has had multiple exes before and definitely isn't a virgin. He also make a lot of sexual jokes with everyone since he's super open but I'm more of the innocent type so I don't do that either. Also he used to do drugs and drink. He stopped doing drugs but he still drinks. I've never done either...
He's super nice though and I don't think he would do anything without asking me if I'm ok with it. Should I give him a chance or are we too different?
Most Helpful Guy
You say this guy you like has had multiple exes before and you’ve had none; he makes lots of sexual jokes with everyone while you sit and listen because you’re more the innocent type; he drinks and has been into drugs and you’ve never done either; etc. To me this would mean you need to give the idea of a relationship with him a lot of thought before you go on your first date. The idea that opposites attract is not always true. True, it takes an opposite magnet to attract the other one but you’re not talking about magnets. Think about this: You won’t have much in common with him so one of you will always have to be compromising. Also, if he’s had multiple exes you could become the next one. There’s a reason none of his relationships have worked out. It might be a good idea of you to check with a couple of his exes and see if you can find out what happened before you go diving in head first into either having sex with him or a relationship. You could very quickly end up pregnant with a responsibility for life with a guy you end up disliking very much. He could ruin your reputation. Don’t look at this super nice thing as meaning too much because he’s probably been the very same way with the other girls that became exes. He would be at his best right now with you. Once he has sex with you a time or two, that “super nice stuff” could change very quickly. Bur of course, this could work with him could work much nicer that it did with the other girls, but the odds are that it won’t! I’d give much consideration and deliberation to giving your “opposite” a chance. This is something that “YOU” need to think about and do listen to other that have already been with him. I don’t think it’d be a good idea to put yourself in a situation to where you’d almost have to change overnight. If you definitely feel you want to give him a chance, then give it slowlyyyyyyyy... veryyyy slowlyyyyy.. The slower the better. Good luck!
Most Helpful Girl
No, I don't think you should. That sounds like a recipe for drama.1