This guy and I have been casually dating for a month. We met in class, so we have a lot of mutual friends/acquaintances. We recently went two weeks without texting/seeing each other after I cut a date short - honestly, the no contact was sort of my fault because I never texted him after that night like I normally did. He's been very open about liking me, but he's insecure about me. He thinks I'm out of his league, and sometimes when we're out he'll joke about me seeing other guys or being too good for him.
Yesterday, I reached out over text acknowledging how I'd been acting towards him (rather cold) and inviting him to a comedy club with mutual friends as a peace offering. ("Hey, it's your favorite ice queen. We're going to a comedy show tonight, you're invited!"). He replied RIGHT away - like he started typing after I sent the first sentence. He said: "I don't think you're an ice queen. That sounds fun, I'm out of town though."
I never replied because I was out with friends the whole day/night. Neither of us are phone people. Is there hope for us to go back to hanging out? Our text conversations are always like this (short/to the point) and it seems like he's down to act like nothing happened. What do you make of his reply?
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I'd think how you've acted might have made him insecure about how you feel. He might have thought your invitation was out of guilt. He thought going in you were out of his league, and then you seemed not to be interested.
I generally never will "chase" a guy, but I'd make a temporary exception if I found myself in your shoes, and I've had some sort of similar situations and had to make sure I showed my interest.
If you want to revive what you had, you're going to have to revive it by making it clear you're very interested. That means kinda chasing for a bit, making sure he knows that you're interested in whatever you're interested in-- not 100% clear exactly what it is; I think it's casual dating, but not completely sure.
Whatever it is, though, make sure he knows you WANT it. Then if he's still interested, chances are he'll accept.1
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