I know this seems like a pathetic question but every guy loses interest in me every time I think I meet a "good guy." I always find out that the other guy goes and flirts with another girl because he just can't keep his pants together. I go through ignored texts, weird insults being thrown at me, and just general ignorance. I'm not clingy and I'm just open to new experiences. I don't know if I'm boring to talk to, I only know that people see me as the "innocent, shy girl" that can be a victim--and that's honest advice from a friend. I don't know what to do and I've given up finding a guy. I don't even want to be relationship in the future from all the shit that I see couples go through.
Most Helpful Guy
You're under 18. You're not developed as a human yet, you have a long way to go.
The best thing you can do to attract others is invest in yourself. What do you want to do with your life? What hobbies do you enjoy? What do you want to learn to do? Here's the thing, any guy would rather introduce their gal as "hey! This is my girlfriend, you know, the one who is really good at X or is studying to do Z" Just like you want a "good guy" who is good at things as well.
Strengthen yourself, invest in yourself, and you'll have the pick of them all.3
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Most Helpful Girl
You say your friend tells you that people see you as "innocent" and "shy". You also realize that "he just can't keep his pants together". Guys at that age really only care about sex, and if you aren't going to put out then they look elsewhere. Some think they deserve sex, and so can be quite mean if they aren't getting any from you. Now maybe you are willing, but since you appear as "innocent" and "shy" most will not think that you would be likely to have sex with them and so they lose interest. Honestly, just wait for them to grow up.1