Do you start as strangers with one of you asking the other out with romantic intentions, or do you usually already know the person pretty well before you start going on dates?
I can't see myself opening up to someone that I barely know by going on dates with them. I'd rather be friends first and then I feel comfortable knowing that they've already seen my quirks and accepted me anyway.
Most Helpful Guy
Most often I went straight for dating after acquaintance level. The girl typically wasn't a complete stranger but someone I didn't know well at all.
Unlike you, I actually felt the most natural this way. It felt strange to me always to take a girl who was a friend and try to elevate things to a sexual and physical level. There was always something that felt a little bit strange about it to me.
The one exception is my wife. She was my friend before we started dating. It also made our first date really awkward because I never tackled this type of situation before where I knew a girl so well already by the time we were dating. I had to actually jam an emergency stop button on an elevator and pull her for a kiss to seal the deal because the date was a total dud up until that point.
Once things heated up with her and we started seeing each other as "lovers" and not just "friends", subsequent dates with her felt a lot more natural to me.0
Most Helpful Girl
I'm only attracted to guys who initiate contact and to guys that I have been close friends with and have gotten to know at a personal level. If I don't know him I probably won't like him unless he is extremely hot and very smart too (he has to be both hot and smart - one trait is not enough).0