I have social anxiety disorder, and I was really thinking about asking this girl out in the fall, but I missed my chance. We've been friends for a while, and used to talk a lot, but hardly ever anymore. I just learned she's started talking to someone else that she likes (I don't know them), which was really painful. Anyway, I'm just wondering what people who have social anxiety think about or how they decide to ask someone out, because I was too scared and I don't want to feel like this again.
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I'm kinda the same as you, I really fear getting rejected and any embarrassment that may follow. I've only ever dated one girl and she did all the initiating, so it was much easier to tell her how I felt after she told me. The sucky thing is that you can't just know if someone's into you just by looking at them, someone has to make the first move. I guess I can't give you any fool proof advice on asking a girl out since I haven't done it either, but I'll tell you this. I'm kinda crushing on a girl right now who I see a few times a week. I want to tell her how I feel, but if I do and she doesn't feel the same way it would be awkward every other time I see her. So what I try to do is smile at her when talking or other general body language things that kinda say "hey I'm happy to see you" or kinda show that I'm sorta interested. In doing this I'm kinda hoping she may start dropping hints if she's interested or just straight up tell me. I don't know if this'll work at all, but because I have the social anxiety type feeling and don't feel comfortable just telling her at this point this is what I'm trying. Try it, maybe it'll work for you.0
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